Hello friends, welcome to my blog
I’m going to start with a phrase that has remained in my thoughts by the writer Jorge Luis Borges.
Lately I have been reading a lot about reading and the new transformative approaches to promote reading in a didactic way in the classroom, but all that is for my degree work and although it enriches my knowledge, at times I feel overwhelmed and I need something different, a reading that I do only for recreational reasons and as my project says, voluntarily.
I had wanted to read this book for more than 20 years when a friend told me about it and told me how much he had learned to understand the opposite sex and that his relationship with women had changed when he understood that we were, felt and expressed ourselves differently. Years later I downloaded it from the internet but at that time there were no smart phones, so where I worked I took the prints and then sent it to be bound and had the book I wanted to read, I asked the favor to an intern who worked with me and even gave her the money and she never came back with the book. At that moment I lost interest in it, I didn’t know that later the book would come to my hands without having to look for it.
A few weeks ago I went into my boss’s office and the book was on the desk, I immediately told her that I had always wanted to read that book and without thinking about it she grabbed it and gave it to me, she said “I’ll give it to you, I already read it”. I have not been able to dedicate as much time as I would like to it because of all the other things I have to do but I have already read half of it, in fact I am exactly in the middle and as my friend had told me I have corroborated that it does help you to understand the opposite sex.
Maybe if I had read it 20 years ago it would not have the same impact as it does now, since 20 years ago I was single and had not lived with any man, but now that I have 18 years living with a partner, every example found in the book reminds me of some experience lived during these 18 years. It has helped me to understand the silence and that men have the need to go into their caves to solve their problems and only talk when they really need help, while women need to talk about problems as a way of catharsis, but since we can’t talk to men for more than a few minutes because they think we are waiting for them to solve our problems when we just want to be heard, that’s why we have friends with whom we talk and exchange problems as if we were competing for who has the worst ones, but that’s okay, we are like that.
This is only a part of what the book says and although I had already lived it, it was not easy for me to understand, but now knowing that it is not a personal behavior but that men behave in the same way has made it easier for me to coexist. So the book has had the feeling that I thought it would have. If you have not read it and want to understand our differences a little more, in order to improve our coexistence then I invite you to read this book.
Trust me,this book is a good read.
I got hold of the Ebook version years ago and it really changed my approaches to situations that involves both genders.
In short, it explains these differences in a didactic way with many examples of situations that we have surely experienced.
It's definitely a great book to know more and understand the opposite sex, putting yourself in the other person's shoes to have a better communication. Enjoy your reading 📚
Thank you, I am enjoying it. It has been a great help.
Oh, WOW!👏 That's a positive takeaway. Maybe I ought to go read this book. After all, I've seen this book on so many bookshelves (the first time seeing the Spanish version though).
Happy Sunday!
It's a good read to understand that we are different, I used to think that my husband's behavior was personal and that surely he was the only one who was like that and other men were not. But by reading the book I understood that men are like that, he does nothing else but what is in his nature. So that has helped me understand and of course it has made everything easier for me because now I don't worry about his attitudes but I wait for them to pass or I know at what point I can get in.
You have to read it to see that what he says reminds you of situations you have already lived through.
Thank you very much for the support 🫂