It's a sad fact that most women have been harassed in some way at some point; men can be dick heads I guess. It's good that you're chap was moved on but bad that (probably predictably) he reacted vengefully. Par for the course with people that think harassment it ok.
I get the impression you've come a long way, found out more about yourself and probably changed a little in the process and that's not a bad thing; well done and all the best for future progression.