This is deep and I could feel the emotions in every word. I respect your decision and can tell how great you are with kids.
I remembered how you went shopping some time ago for your nephew, how you painted together, and how you intend to give him an old painting accessory passed on to you because of his talented and creative mind. The Lego and everything tell how wonderful you are.
About the person who said you could have been a terrible father, I guess the person doesn't know you well enough. Regardless of what anyone thinks, you are an amazing person and a father lots of kids will want to have.
Not every man who brings a child into this world is a father and many made the decision not to who is worth calling a father. Your article has made me understand something, being a father is not about how many children a man brings to the world, it is about how many we have had a great impact on.
The person knows me well, certainly well enough to know that that comment would cut deeply. It was said to annoy me, to hurt me, and it did to some degree, but I think it actually hurt the person far more than it did me, because they know they should not have said it, that it is untrue, and that I'll I'll never forget that it was said. Ever. It can't be retracted and I think the person probably wishes it could.
This is very well said, I agree.