I think we don't know what or who we are capable of. And for me, it was a matter of not knowing HOW to listen because I had a playlist of teachers, parents, siblings, and church leaders telling me what was right for me. And how I should think and feel. And not one of those individuals, bless all their hearts for trying and not knowing any better at the time, but not one of those individuals ever taught how to listen to the self. I think it is interesting we don't teach that in schools or in churches.
We teach how to listen to the teacher, or how to listen to god. at best. And nothing against that, per se. But god is a different meaning for everyone. And not always accurate or helpful to think of something outside of you dictating what you should do. What about just trusting ourselves, and having the confidence that our own higher or older future self will have much to say about something?