This is an amazing and educative piece. Thanks for sharing.
Just as you mentioned 'it is the responsibility of both partners to protect and keep their home.'
If the both of them see it that way then I assure you that the issue of "what are you bringing to the table" will not even come up.
I'm glad that some men these days see nothing wrong in going into the kitchen to prepare a meal for the family if the woman could not. Unlike those days the kitchen is meant for women only. If the woman is not feeling fine then no food for the family that day.
So in conclusion I must say it's all about taking responsibility, be it the man of the house or the helper (the woman)
You know I love the fact you're a lady and this point is coming from you. Many times some persons regard this as gender inequality with the opinion "Men should take every responsibilities at home" even the ones they can handle..
Thanks for your input
Actually, genda inequality and the share of responsibilities are mostly the cause of aguments in most marriages