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I watched a short video earlier on today, it's actually a thought provoking video that left allot of points in my mind.
What Should She Bring To The Table?
I would love to hear your opinions but before I digest my points and views about this question, take for instance there are lots of work to be done by two partners who had no kids in the house.
There are dishes to washed, food to cooked and other house-chores in the house to be done by them. While the husband is washing the plates and the wife maybe cooking or doing something else in the house, one of them needed to carry the water dispenser bottle from the floor to the table. The water dispenser bottle was more closer to the lady and apparently obstructing her in the kitchen, she first of all lifted the water dispenser bottle and dropped it on the table then brought it down again because she felt there was a man in the house and wanted him to carry the dispenser bottle and drop it on the table.
If the reason for her action was because she wanted the man to feel needed in the house and doesn't want to take some certain responsibilities she believes belongs to him at home what is then your opinion about her actions?
What Should She Bring To The Table?
A lot of people ask these questions and the answers from some of the ladies scared allot of men from them. Is relationship supposed to be a fifty/fifty affair or zero/hundred?
I believe a woman is a helper to the man, it's her duty to help her man and in my own humble opinion, you must not starve him of the necessary attention and help you can render to him till he runs out ideas, strength and even lost hope before you step in. What I mean is that your presence shouldn't be felt only when you are needed.
I honestly disagree with people that say women shouldn't do anything at home to help their husbands because they are responsible for bringing kids alone to the table. Is it not best to always occupy your space in the house even when not told to.?
In the scenario above, I see no reason for dropping down the water dispenser bottle again after keeping it in the right place. We may decide to say she proved a good point only if she asked him to help her pick it up if only she didn't even try or she tried and failed. But forgetting that it's both their responsibilities to keep and protect their homes it's for me. There are other things men do at home that portrays their masculinity to the max except otherwise! A woman is supposed to serve as a support system all the time to the man and that means she is fully ready and available to help the man wherever she can and not must until he fails in that area before she comes in.
I'm pretty sure if he was a amputee she would have come in but even when he's not, my own opinion is you're supposed to step in! Or is a woman not supposed to bring something to the table?
Let me get your feedback and opinions guys):
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Nice thought and a nice question too.
U have explained most of the things people do which sometimes leads to burden overwhelm by one partner. In my own opinion, companionship shouldn't be a fifty_fifry or zero_hundred, but it's should be a matter of standing for each other when necessary. Both parties have a role to play because the holy Bible says both the man and woman are to leave their parents and establish their own homes, so if you are leaving Ur father's house to build a new home, it's expected of u not to come with an empty ideas, empty tolerance, and zero mind to contribute; because the left hand washes the right hand and vice versa.
Good perspective Bro...
We are on the same page and I appreciate your sincere contribution, let's look out for more opinions..😃
This is an amazing and educative piece. Thanks for sharing.
Just as you mentioned 'it is the responsibility of both partners to protect and keep their home.'
If the both of them see it that way then I assure you that the issue of "what are you bringing to the table" will not even come up.
I'm glad that some men these days see nothing wrong in going into the kitchen to prepare a meal for the family if the woman could not. Unlike those days the kitchen is meant for women only. If the woman is not feeling fine then no food for the family that day.
So in conclusion I must say it's all about taking responsibility, be it the man of the house or the helper (the woman)
You know I love the fact you're a lady and this point is coming from you. Many times some persons regard this as gender inequality with the opinion "Men should take every responsibilities at home" even the ones they can handle..
Thanks for your input
Actually, genda inequality and the share of responsibilities are mostly the cause of aguments in most marriages