So you think it’s better to keep it all in?
That is not what I’m saying at all. I’m simply saying, even the women that want you to open up might not be able to “take” it when you open up. So you need to understand what they mean by opening up so that you don’t overdo it and doom your relationships.
The problem is not that men don’t open up entirely, it’s that they don’t like feeling that kind of vulnerability towards women, their woman specifically. And when even YOUR woman says she wants you to open up to her, there’s a subconscious standard of “opening up” she has, and anything beyond this point will have her see you as less of a man. Her subconscious standard could be “crying”. You can tell her everything but there’s a limit at crying. Once you cry in front of her, you can kiss your relationship goodbye. Of course she won’t tell you this though, because maybe even she doesn’t know you crying will give her the ick. Or maybe she does but just doesn’t want to be mean or come off that way so she doesn’t tell you.
There are several other options if you can’t open up to a woman. Your boys always got you, maybe family also, or worst case scenario, therapy and counseling. One of these has to work for any person. Bottles explode when they take too much and you don’t want to be a bottle exploding with suppressed emotions one day.
I see.