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What age is right to be pregnant or have a child?
Have you noticed that almost 90% of the times, babies are loved unconditionally regardless of the circumstances that surrounded their birth nor the age of their parents? yet during pregnancy especially in Africa, if you are a teenager, not married and probably living under your parents roof, the boy responsible goes through so much pressure which is not really intended towards helping him grow but rather to punish him for what he has done and also the girl goes through a very tough psychological phase where some are pushed to attempt things hurtful to themselves in a quest to terminate the pregnancy
A few years ago my little cousin got pregnant for a young man who was not her husband and who the family didn't know as well, what I saw her go through in the hands of my parents and the entire family got me scared
typical African parents will scare life out of you.
In our African society, premarital s*x, having a child when not married, and most importantly being a teenager involved in any of this is one of the worst thing to ever happen to you. There is a level of rejection you will experience that will make you regret your choices, in some cases parents disowned their children because they have brought shame to the bloodline and the society also gives you your way until you put to birth.
This happen because in most cases, these teenagers are still in school and this pregnancy coming into the picture puts studies in a long pause and some times it is hard to see beyond it for a while because there are expectations and you just hit a reset to your timeline
This is where the twist and irony comes in.
Immediately you put to birth, your family comes back especially your parents to help you raise the new born child, they will give you max support most times and you will forget for a moment what rejection you received few months back especially the early phase of your journey. A few years down the line the child grows up to being loved and embraced by the same society that almost crucified his/her parents when he/she was just about to log into life.
Looking at the case of my cousin, she almost took her life due to the pressure and rejection she had to go through but as I talk to you now, her son in about 5yrs old and one of the loveliest kids I've known in my entire life, everyone in the family loves him to the point that my parents are still taking care of him till date which is amazing because the pressure was like never going to end but rather it is the love for him that is endless which brings me to this question
what should parents do when their underage kids get pregnant?
what should be their response?
is it proper to push them to the limit in rage?
where does the rage go when the child is born?
How should these kids be treated when such happens?
I guess I'm not in a position to answer your question as I haven't been a parent yet or a mother, but for me. I think the first who should understand the teenager are the parents. They should be the first one to support their kids. Of course, it is only understandable for them to get mad but I hope it will not come to the point that the teenager would want to quit her life.
Thank you, you have a valid point, its OK to be mad but considering the situation the child's mental health should be protected
Yep and that's more important than the disappointment if the parents
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Although I am not married but I have seen this kind of scenario happen to a friend of mine and it wasn't friendly
So I will definitely advice avoiding having a child at tender age
Thank you, another valid point
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Thank you I didn't know that community because I was looking and though I didn't ask
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