It's sad that the term marriage I used to know in the early 2000s isn't what it used to be. The truth is that this change didn't just start with our generation; it was something that had been happening since the early 1900s without anyone realizing it, but it has become the norm in the 21st century.
What you're about to read now might look like a scientific explanation for why marriage isn't what it used to be, but I will make you understand because I will explain it in layman's words.
There was a factor introduced into marriage that changed the whole perspective of the thing called marriage. People used to believe in "Till death do us part," but now when one person in the marriage is trying to bring death upon the other person, something needs to be done, and this factor was introduced, which is none other than "Mr. Divorce."
One thing many couples love to do now is court marriage because they have this thought at the back of their minds: "If it doesn't work out, I will divorce him or her." This thought has actually affected a lot of young couples going into marriages because they already see divorce as an escape route for a marriage that doesn't work out.
I attended a wedding in January. The wedding was meant to happen in December but was moved to January. The young couples really wanted to get married in December, and the excitement was high, but the family had to convince them so they could move the wedding to January. The wedding was held in January in grand style. I was one of the guys making sure things went well during the wedding, but it is sad to say that yesterday, a divorce was filed so they could go their separate way.
I really don't know what happened, but divorce should be the first option, based on the information I got. The lady was always on her phone and didn't cook, which got her husband angry. He asked him to go get food outside, which he did, and the word she said was, "Now that you ate out, did you die?"
I don't know what kind of relationship they had before the marriage, but is that enough to break them up? Nope right? Well, the lady had her complaint, and the guy had his. The conclusion of the matter now is that they can't live together anymore, and they want to separate.
This factor that has been added to marriage has made many people think marriage is not a do-or-die affair, which I believe it is not, but too many rules that bond people together in their marriage have been changed, and so many loopholes to run out of a marriage have been found.
Currently, I don't think there is anything in this world right now that can keep a marriage apart from love!! If there is no love in a marriage, there is no friendship and understanding. Money, sex, luxury, and other vanity that can be achieved in marriage cannot keep a marriage.
I hope I have been able to explain the factor to you. Thanks for reading.
Posted Using InLeo Alpha
The 21st century generation, do not really understand what marriage really is. So many just want to bear the title of "she/he" is married without having the full knowledge of what marriage is all about. I believe married is about sacrifice and patience, you should be ready to forsake some things for partner. Many this days are not really patience with each other reason while divorce couples are much outside.
Like you said, many dont want to sacrifice for each other and without sacrifice, there is no way a marraige will stand
I have always said that marriage is not for boys and girls but for matured people.
A lot of things go into making marriage work and some of them are patience, understanding, tolerance and selflessness. When these factors are combined with love in marriage by both partner's, then it would be quite hard to hear divorce.
Nowadays, many individuals are already with the mindset of I can opt out at any time especially when things are not rosy and with this mindset, marriage cannot work because both partners are not joined to stay but joined to part ways at the slightest sign of unpleasantness.
The only authorized factor for a divorce is when life is threatened is when violent and physical abuse occurs. The woman can separate herself for her life's sake first and then they can try to work things out but if the beatings continue then a divorce is the best choice to save the woman's life.
Asides this factor, every other form of divorce is a result of child's play and immaturity.
I hope that intending couples can sit down and map out how they want their marriage to go and work towards it. I believe that It would help reduce the rate of divorce.
My professor is at it again,
I am glad you saw this because many people will see your comment and learn from it.
For those couple, I see on reason for the divorce but things have been going on before they married and they refuse to acknowledge the red flags. I hope they can work things out too
Thanks for this amazing comment
Thanks boss 😂😂
I’m sorry but I laughed at some point. So the woman didn’t cook and asked the man to buy food from outside and he did and then she asked him if she died for eating outside?
😂😂😂😂😂😂ahhh what’s all this
Like
The matter is a serious one yet funny. I don’t know if I should call it love of the new generation or wrong thing
I don’t know their life before marriage
But now they are going to get a divorce
You said it all.
I was on a conversation with a lady, a friend that was about to get wedded. We got talking and I was surprised at how she mentioned that once she's not getting what she wants in Marriage or getting ill treatment, she's going to call it off.
It was the wAY she said CALL IT OFF like it some kind of call shes on. many people go into marriage with this mind set and anyone with such a mind set will be ready to always opt out at any time.
Wow, so now the marriage is over, that's crazy I must say. How many years was their courtship? But this TikTok generation sef
For real, tiktok generation. A lot of them have learned from different social media sites, and they already planned their lives the way it do on social media
Rubbish,that's spoiling their lives