Weeks ago, our HR contacted me via email to follow up on the status of my maternity leave. They already issued me a Return to work order - RTO in September last year; thus, I requested an extension. After months of staying at home and caring for Caleb, I realized it was too impossible to resume my work. No one has the potential to take care of him, and besides, that means I could only see him on weekends. Hiring a nanny now was too expensive, plus the fact was too risky. That made up my mind to formally submit my resignation.
This is only for formality as we already had a conversion through Viber. After eleven years of working, the HR team acknowledged it and marked my jobless ERA!
Realistic day as a Mom with an infant.
As I am now an official stay-at-home Momreshape his head.. Reaping what I sow., I've been thinking about how to earn money without leaving home. Some of my online friends, like Jane, MJ, and others, were busy writing gigs. I offered to back up @jane1289, and she gave me a topic but couldn't finish it. Realizing I might compromise her work, I backed out 😫 . My son demands much of my time now as he is always grumpy; teething stage. He had one tooth at the lower part and two more about to come out. Oftentimes, he wanted me at his side. Yep, he would play, but I should too next to him. When he sleeps, he wants to be cuddled and even wakes up at night just to cry. He feels uncomfortable! He is clingy, yes. Perhaps this is the result of me holding him often in the previous months to
Yesterday, it was only past nine in the morning, yet I felt tired. Who wouldn't if you lack sleep for days? I was too lazy to move, even to prepare my lunch.
Though I managed to cook rice and just have canned tuna for Viand, I wasn't done eating yet; I heard Caleb crying in our bedroom 😫. That meant I didn't have enough sleep and just wanted to be cuddled for a few minutes.
The rest of the day was spent caring for the little Boss. Thus the day was indeed tiring as he kept on being grumpy. I think it was because of his milk. I'd been trying to change from Similac tummy care to Similac gain. Why? It was too expensive. I know it is costly, but I didn't think that much. My naive part thought other milk might be more expensive, like S26 Gold 🤣. We are in the transition stage, and I hope it will succeed.
When he finally slept, I was thinking of buying a cup of milk tea.
No, don't place an order, Les. That's too expensive! Says the stingy part of me. Macao milk tea could cost me up to $5, including the delivery charge.
This will do. I saw a powdered tea the husband bought for me, so I made my Tea and put some cube ice in it. But before I could enjoy a sip, Caleb woke up! Yes, he only slept about 30 minutes!
Well, it's five in the afternoon, so I might eat dinner while he is enjoying his walker. BUT the audacity of this fly to lay her eggs in my rice! I don't know how she managed to get inside the rice cooker!
That me, I ended up eating biscuits instead. I had some instant noodles and pancit canton but was too drained to cook. All I wanted was to lie down in bed and rest! Thus, currently, this is just a dream; of course, I woke up from time to time to feed my baby or soothe him back to sleep. Ahh, how long the teething stage is?
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Being a mother is much like being a full-time employee. The little boss can keep one fully employed. A busy day for you but im sure many and more will be like this. Even though it hard its great you are taking care of him, much better than a nanny or anyone else who simply doesn't have that special bond. Its wonderful your husband isn't questioning your spending:) You have much deserved things for yourself.
I will only be at ease if it's my mother who will take care of my son. Yet, that was no longer feasible when she was busy back home. Also taking care of one of my nephews who was in kindergarten.
My husband was always like that, if I am working, my money my money. He never asks me where I spend it. He was a good provider I can say.
Besides, online shopping was the effective therapy for postpartum 😆
Sounds like a busy day! I think being a mother is a job and mothers everywhere should be paid generously by their husband😄. Perhaps when Caleb is a little older, you can resume working again 😊
Sometimes I joked the husband to give me salary 😆.
At least, he is not calling my attention everytime he receive email on his phone about my shoppee transactions 😆.
It was bitter sweet.
Seeing you baby grow, watching the milestone while you are trying your best not to lose yourself.
🤣 hahahaaha he's such a good husband for not questioning your Shopee transaction. My partner finds Shopee weird but I mean, it's like SEA Amazon, we can find a lot of stuff there and with discounts too.
Have you ever heard of Fizzo? basically you can get paid by reading something. My mom does it for fun. It's not a lot but she's always happy when she gets extra $5 just by reading 🤣
He shouldn't dare! Haha!
Well, so far at least I am fortunate for having a responsible husband. Not that we are rich but somehow, life is good 😊😊.
Yeah, shoppee is the cheapest online shop and lots of voucher 😆. Can find everything.
Fizzo?
No, just heard it now!
If it's available in your country, you can download it. They literally give you money to read the novels in that application.
I'll check it
I totally agree with you 😅
Husbands need to appreciate and pay every mother because it's not easy to take care of a child, not to talk of 2,3 or more. Hahaha 😀
Hahah, like having monthly allowance would be nice!
Working can be difficult for a nursing mother especially one whose baby is always clingy and want to be cuddled every time. Lol
I think resigning would allow you have more time for the little boss and I hope you find something to keep you busy and earn some income too. I wish you a great one with being an official stay at home mom.
Thanks Princess, I hope you are doing well too!
Maybe next year or in the next few months I could pursue writing gigs
Laughing about the fly😂. It's all about shopper that wins everytime😛. Charge to husband😌.
Hahha, I didn't even catch the fly for her to face the consequences 😆.
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hi... sorry about your job. One thing is certain in life.
" NO ONE CAN ACTUALLY TAKE CARE OF YOUR CHILD THE WAY YOU WILL DO"
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hi i think we have almost the same experienced,when i was in my busy days as an employee with a good salary and high position in a company but the moment when i became a mother, i resigned immediately. It's good to hear that you'll be the one to take care of your child because no one can replace a mother's care to her child. Take care yourself and enjoy every moment to your child. God bless you!
Warrior Mom,💪
I read your words and feel every single one of them. I know how exhausting it is when motherhood and caregiving consume you completely, when days and nights blur into an endless cycle of caring, soothing, and sacrificing even the most basic things, like a hot meal, a warm cup of coffee, or a moment of rest. I also understand that feeling of not being able to trust anyone else with this caregiving role, especially during this season of your baby’s life—honestly, at any stage, but even more so now.
First, I want you to know that you are not alone in feeling this way. It’s normal to feel exhausted, frustrated, and even to doubt yourself. Motherhood isn’t how it’s portrayed on social media; it’s chaotic, draining, and sometimes lonely. But it’s also a reflection of the deepest love there is. You’re doing an incredible job, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. You are not alone. Raising a baby, especially during the teething stage, is a challenge that not many understand, but there are many of us who have been through it, and we’re sending you a heartfelt embrace from afar.
Reading your words brought back so many moments from my own experience—I lived it with my three children, each in their own way. I know how overwhelming it can be to care for a teething baby, compounded by accumulated exhaustion, lack of sleep, and the pressure to “do more” when you’re already doing the most important thing: taking care of your child.
The teething stage will pass (even though it feels eternal right now). Yes, it’s an expert-level patience test, but little by little, you’ll be able to reorganize your time. In the meantime, try cold teethers, gentle gum massages, avoid numbing gels, and consult with the pediatrician about any remedies for discomfort.
Regarding the topic of earning income from home, I completely understand that need. Sometimes the pressure to contribute financially can be as overwhelming as physical exhaustion. But I encourage you to take it step by step. Explore activities you can do in small windows of time, without feeling guilty if you can’t make quick progress.
Deciding to leave your job wasn’t easy, but you did it out of love. And even though it may seem like the world doesn’t recognize that effort, little Caleb does. His attachment, his need to be with you, is proof that you are his safe haven and his security.
Remember that taking care of yourself is important too. It doesn’t have to be anything big; sometimes, a sip of that cold tea, even if interrupted, is an act of self-care. Celebrate those small wins. Don’t be too hard on yourself. It’s okay if some days you’re just surviving. It’s okay if you can’t do everything you’d like to. Over time, you’ll find ways to generate income without neglecting him, but for now, just breathe. The extreme exhaustion isn’t forever, even if it feels like it today.
You are strong, brave, and capable—even on the days when you don’t feel like it. There are many of us moms who understand and stand with you, even from afar.
Give yourself grace.🤗