Thank you for sharing so openly; I think a lot of us can relate to what you're going through. Self-identity and finding balance can feel like an endless puzzle, but you're absolutely right, baby steps are key. It's okay to stumble while figuring out how to prioritize both feeling and looking better; we're human, after all. And I also still make such mistakes and have such questions.
I love that you're already reflecting on how to focus on what you can control and let go of the rest, that's such a powerful mindset shift! Results take time, but the fact that you're even having these thoughts shows you're on the right track. Be kind to yourself, celebrate those small wins, and trust the process. Sending you good vibes and wishing you a year full of growth and clarity!