Your attitude is killer.
Despite saying things that are incredibly frustrating and groan-worthy (the needless bureaucracy and the hierarchy issues with your boss), yet you share all of these sorrows with a smile.
Your accent is making me struggle - where are you from, originally? Or are you a big cultural clusterfuck like me?
I am definitely a clusterfuck. I'm from the US but I spent about 10 years speaking very little English, mostly Japanese and Mandarin or English with Italians, Israeli, Germans and Russians...or Japanese so I have to actively try to speak like a native speaker to sound like a native speaker which I never bother with unless I'm teaching.
I'm positive because I don't have a choice! Everything sucks so much more when I'm negative, I learned positivity the hard way!😀
Oh, how interesting!
It reflects my Dutch which has deteriorated after barely speaking any of it for 10 years as well.
Funny thing is - I can, for the most part, understand it very well. It's the explaining myself or actually USING words that I know subconsciously that I struggle with.
Do you feel the same with English? Do you feel like you can say, still type like a native, but struggle to speak like one?
And that's a REALLY interesting outlook on positivity. Very pragmatic. Reminds me a little about a fantasy novel I'm reading that a friend wrote, based on Mindfulness.
Basically, one of the characters makes the point that truth is boring and depends on facts that fluctuate based on circumstance, whereas lies (which he doesn't see negatively - telling yourself it's going to be alright when everything sucks, is technically a "lie" because you don't know) are under your own control.
It's a Zen-ish attitude of being happy regardless of what the "objective" reality is.
Sorry for spamming your thread, your videos always make my mind wander (in a good way) :)
Keep on keeping on!
No need to say sorry. Your comments are like little presents 🎁
Lol so I’m lying to myself now 😛😛😛
That book sounds awesome. I think it might fit in a genre with the books I write.
I don’t know if I’d say the truth is boring, I think the truth is a lot more flexible than we make it out to be. Self fulfilling prophecies everywhere. I’ve already experienced how much worse I feel physically when I’m negative so for me being positive is kind of a responsibility. I can’t control if there is food to eat, but I have to go out and look anyway. And I find it’s usually out there if you look hard enough.
All the biggest positive changes in my life have occurred because of change in attitude toward the biggest struggles too.
I don’t forget English but I do wonder if I have to pause more because of all the time I spend not speaking it. And yeah there are silly words I forget that I have no reason to forget. The word in Japanese kind of obfuscates the English word.
D'aww thanks! (I had this tab open for days and only just realised)
Haha, sorta... I mean, if you go under the theory that "nothing is true unless it happens" then we're always lying to ourselves when we try to predict the future.
It seems that your approach is a flexible one, where truth is more of "what you make of it" (= self fulfilling prophecies). I definitely agree to an extent with the "Law of Attraction"-like stance, even though I can't stand people who swear by that book/rule.
My explanation as a basic psychologist is not one of cosmic energies, but simply a matter of attention:
We take a person having a day. That day has a lot of frustrating events, and also opportunities/fun moments.
That someone who is pessimistic/annoyed/angry, will notice all the things that anger him (e.g. my bike pedal loosened 2 days ago), so much so that he will miss the opportunities/pleasant events. (e.g. one day I was biking to work and I noticed a quirky salamander on the side of the path. Another, my flatmate walking to work)
Someone who is hopeful/energized/determined will ignore the noise and pick up on the opportunities given. An opportunity could be a small smile from a stranger (a new friend?) or perhaps, someone on the side of the road who needs help.
Having gone through the same day, the pessimist will say how lousy it was, whereas the optimist will say what a great day he had. They will both be right, subjectively and objectively because of what they engaged their energies in.
Thank you for coming to my TED talk :)
Lucky you! Talking slow is bearable - I hate knowing that I know a word, but being incapable of retrieving it. Or retrieving a typo'd cousin of the word I'm looking for. ("right to bear/bare arms")
There are all different perspectives to look at this, but I think it rings true whether from a more psychological perspective, a philosophical one, a spiritual one or a practical one. Law of Attraction....I try not to use this word because my exploration of it leaves me feeling its a much heavier and complex model than people give it credit for...having a subconscious mind and everything, and the relationship between the conscious and subconscious. It's not just a matter of words and images.
Actually I live by the theory that all things constantly coexist and I am merely moving through parallel realities that give me the illusion of time...lol this is a whole new can of worms though, how many do we wanna open? hahahha
Eh, worms are a delicacy - we should open many of them :)
I suppose you could look at it through multiple prisms, as mos things. I try to stay within my field of knowledge - some philosophers have a habit of looking at things through prisms of say, computer science, without really knowing computer science. This in turn makes for a really weak argument, but a nice metaphor to get the point across at best.
Unfortunately, philosophers, unlike writers, don't like to take themselves with a grain of salt (or accept that sometimes "just" dramatization is fine without a deeper meaning) but seem obsessed with their own opinion.
If you can tell, I'm not a huge fan of philosophers 🙃