Truth be told, I was not at the last level of minimalism when I got married. This means I knew nothing about being minimal, but now there are so many ways I have placed myself at the minimal level.
Before I knew what is called minimalism, I had this impression of always coming home at any time I felt like. I took my work so seriously, and then I loved staying at work even after closing. This was because I had no wife and nobody to quarry me.
Going by the look of things, I grew up in a polygamous home, and then I was taught how to be minimal in all ways, but work and self-empowerment have taken those ideas away from me.
Now that I'm married, I've let go of so many things in my life. A life with a wife is worth calling a minimalist life, except when you marry someone who does not want to take things minimally.
Some women are just not worth marrying because they cannot manage life with you as a man. My wife can manage life with me. She can go the extra mile to make sure she manages whatever we have at hand.
When I embrace minimalism, I let go of:
Unwanted spending
The fact remains that I can spend any time, especially in the presence of my friends. Some time ago, before I got married, I took my friends out to drink. I do buy drinks and whatever they order for me. My life was not palatable when it came to spending money. I am not used to saving.
But after marriage, my spending habits got a turnaround. My wife had to teach me how to save and how to minimize the way I spend my money. She taught me to embrace minimalism in my spending. Unlike some other women, they would allow their husbands to still have that initial habit of spending instead of helping them to save. My wife would economize whatever I gave her to buy moderately.
Time management:
Managing my time was also something I put into consideration after marriage. I'm the type who loves staying out late. I would not come home after work; instead, I would stay out with my friends until midnight. My nature was not to manage my time but to spend a lot of my time outside.
The very moment I embraced minimalism (after marrying my wife), I took my time to manage my time so well. My wife would want me to always come back home on time and would not allow me out after work.
I now see time as something I must manage just to make my relationship the best. When you find a wife who can help you make your life or mold your life into a better shape, then you need to thank your star. I don't go out anymore; I don't even drink anymore. My friends kept calling me to come around as usual, but I kept avoiding going out.
Cooking Habits:
Back in the day, I always loved going to an eatery to buy food instead of cooking at home. I had no gas cooker or means of cooking food, just because I was not ready to prepare any food in the house. Being single is what I can call guys living with this nature.
When I got married, my wife had to remove me from buying food from the eatery. She now prepares food at home and then relieves me totally from fast food joints.
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Understood perfectly.
I can see that your wife is truly a blessing to you. She taught you and you learned perfectly and appreciated her effort in turning things around. That's very good.