Yeah for sure! They like to text me and bother me around birthday times, since the little man and i’s are so close. Can’t enjoy the month, nor major holidays like the winter ones without them feeling like they need to bother me, despite the rest of the year not giving a flying fuck. It’s annoying to have to waste energy on it sadly.
When my wife’s friend said how great it felt to cut them out, my wife said to her “now do you see why we cut his family out? It’s liberating!” Lol
Them coming back on you, that's more about them than you I'd say, and a weight they need to carry at all times; the need/desire to keep circling back to where they are unwelcome. I'm certain you know how to deal with it, how to deny them any space in your head.