I'm pretty pro with death my fav German chick. There's no rules or instruction manual unfortunately. So you just have to know everything you're doing, you're doing right. The realest thing I can tell you is it gets easier.
People will say things like sorry for your loss or my condolences or something similar. They just don't know what to say is all. It gets easier.
How far away or how accessible is a slice of cake and cup'0 Joe?