RE: Why Setting Standards in Relationships Can Be a Struggle for Me

Setting standards when they want something is for people with a goal and getting that something would be beneficial pursuing that goal.

is your goal to have a happy family? you get a loving partner.

is your goal to be rich? you get a rich partner.

is your goal to be someone everyone looks up to? a hero? you get a supportive partner.

I don't have goals anymore... what I have left is responsibility.

what I am looking for in a partner is to give me motivation to live.

To add chapters to the book I call my life.

Her Happiness would be my happiness, sounds nice right? but I don't think so, I think of it as a parasitic relationship as opposed to mutualism. --maybe just my thoughts.

but even if she doesn't come, that's okay.

The story will just end and there will be no more sequels.