I have a different perspective on the dating scenario... I live in the forest and my life rarely has new social encounters so I've helped myself out to trying dating apps. I've met a few interesting people with whom I still talked but neither I found them to be so interesting as to step out of my comfort zone to make them a part of my life, nor did they find in me the kind of partner they wanted in their life.
We gave it a shot, didn't really work out, still talk with respect and honesty. I don't really see the harm. Not everyone wants to live in the forest, and I certainly don't want to spend too much time in the city. I mean, it would have to be some kind of mindblowing magical encounter that I value too much to neglect my relationship with Nature on its behalf.
In a way, you could argue I prioritize my job over these emotional connections (though my job does not consist on hoarding money), and I'd say you're right. I want to live a life in what feels like a good relationship with the Nature surrounding me, but I still want to have fun and be able to meet people without approaching them with commitment in mind. Commitment, I believe, will be spontaneous when I encounter someone who shares similar values and we also have a physical attraction that pulls us to that kind of union. Until then, I will meet people and enjoy myself, learn from the experiences, and let go of the expectation that they can fill whatever void I still haven't filled.
The selfishness in bed is pure ignorance, it's actually a lot more fun and pleasurable if the enjoyment goes both ways. Once you've experienced that, it just feels very lame to be selfish.
As for replacement... we're all replaceable until we aren't.
Wow, almost wrote a whole post to reply this, so I guess thanks for the inspiration lol
More power to you. I agree, you can meet some wonderful people on apps. It's not that I'm against, just that, from my perspective, they've stripped dating of romance and effort, and to me, that seems sad. Now, one can flirt with a potential partner while on the toilet, and that's a wee bit nasty to me.
There isn't one, as long as everyone's content. The harm only appears if either they tried to change your lifestyle, or you tried to change theirs to suit your own. Other than that, to each his own happiness. It's excellent that you've found something important and valuable, and a system of prioritizing the things in your life. Many don't.
I think you're right, and hope you find that :)
Thanks, you as well if you desire it :)