Im agreed with you, every house has rules and we must act in order to it.
People have to adapt to fit in the communities and fuck those breakers, they have to learn how to act properly. I'm glad that at least in hive People stop them, because other whise they will keep feeling they're doing it right while it is the opposite.
On the other hand, I liked reading what you say because it made me feel like I was on the right track, making comments, joining communities and engaging.
Some communities are not monitored and administrated and that's ok. Mine is though, and I will advise someone if they have not followed rules. Most are ok about it. I feel absolutely no remorse in addressing those who rant at me though, and often I make a point of making my point rather firmly.
I'm glad you feel you're on track. It's a really simple formula. Post well, outbound commenting and follow the accepted rules. It's not too difficult.