Very good, @ph1102:
"... the majority isn't right ..."
A little tongue-in-cheek perhaps, but can we say the majority don't give any hint of understanding this? Funny. Not funny.
What you write is deeply rooted and grounded in the truth.
In raising our children to understand this, it is not too far from this same truth that they need to develope the strength of character to stand alone, if necessary. Life experience would strongly suggest the closer to this ideal they can get, the better off they are going to be over time.
Raising children is hard... I have only one, but I can't imagine when you have 3, 4, or more... 😃 My kid is now 19, but I do remember the time when he was in the "full-teenage" mode... All kids were the same... same clothes, same attitude, same (no) thinking... But, that's just "that age" and we were there too...
The problem is that many people STAY at that age, which isn't that cool for people from their surroundings.... I mean, it's cool to be a kid for life... 🤣 No responsibilities, no worries...
But, I did notice changes in my kid, and I'm happy about it... The biggest difference is that he comes to ask for advice, share his ideas, and it's cool to see initiative from him! Also, his way of thinking has changed! Maybe they look like they are not listening while they are kids, but it is written somewhere in the back of the brain... And it comes up to the surface... 🙂
The realization that it is GOOD to be different is crucial!
Thanks for the great comment that made me think... ;)
Hahaha ... Very good, @ph1102:
That is a one clear, succinct way to capture it.
Very sad, but unmistakably true, for far too many. Fundamental to this fallacy is the failure to fully grasp and truly understand the vital importance of work. And hard work at that. Pretending like you can continue on with rejecting responsibility is to consciously choose to ignore the obvious fact the SOMEONE is doing this FOR YOU!!
Not okay ... It never has been and it will never be. It is only a matter of the time it takes to get this settled. The longer we carry these people, in a family setting, or society, in a broader setting, the higher the cost.
To all of us.
It is very good, @ph1102, that you can say this. I agree most of us eventually "wake up!" at least to one degree or another. Blessed is the day when our children come home and talk to us in a manner which, in unmistakably clear language, indicates they have finally grown up.