Except it's not her that needs to learn coping mechanisms, it's the world.
Labels are just that. We label people outside the square who can not remain still or do as their told or XYZ went through it all as a kid, heard it all, copped it all. Knew it was all shit.
My daughter is the exact same as me, my partner struggles I cope quite ok with it. But at 34 my energy levels are probably just under my 4 yr olds. Sometimes she beats me, other times she falls asleep exhausted. All depends.
Uni's and schools want a "diagnosis" so they can "help" which is bullshit. I struggled at school because some teachers were shit and depressed. I excelled in classes that were engaging and hands on. They tried to direct me to trades. Tried that for a bit but then decided I wanted to go back to the office and change the world.
So I did, I've rolled our programs and projects that have seen me feature on Google blog and had American and UK companies try and recruit me.
I'm short, sweet and to the point. People don't always like me. But I have quite a few projects under my belt that were world firsts that have made change. If I was a grub I'd sold for millions but I gave them away so they can be replicated.
Don't get me wrong, I have a very nice wage at my current office job.
Hands down, I don't think they will be ready for your daughter. ADHD is a weapon when it is focused.
Yeah the way schools and other places try to get rid of and tame people that have high energy levels is brutal. I feel for you on the boring teachers and boring subjects. I loved the subjects and classes that were hands on and the teachers made learning fun and connected. If the teacher just sat at their desk and talked at us instead of getting us involved I wouldn't bother and ended up getting some bad grades because that wasn't how I learned. It worked out in the end because those same classes in high school that I couldn't handle, in college with better professors and learning styles I got A's. I even got a 100% on the final exam in one of my classes, the professor was completely shocked, it was one of my proudest moments! That same class in high school I got a D because it was taught in such a lame way.
Sounds like you're doing well when you have the right environments so that's awesome, I'm glad for you! We need more people like that in the world, motivated and want to do good instead of taking what they have and selling it to the highest bidder to buy crap they don't need.
Totally agree and for anyone that's interested this is the Google blog.
It was my first year of Dadding and I was awaiting an operation for a hernia repair. I had put on a bit of weight 🤣
https://australia.googleblog.com/2017/08/give-little-warmth-this-winter.html?m=1
Unfortunately, for where she wants to get career wise, she has to jump through the the hoops that are a university education and hours in exams. Once she gets through that, the work she would be doing should be stimulating enough for her to just be herself again. In the mean time it's coping mechanisms to get her through and she's even considering Ritalin (I'm hoping she doesn't and she knows my thoughts on it, but she'll do things her own way).
I yearn for the day when all personality types are accepted as normal, but the current equality drive could actually undermine that, because they can't be seen to be treating people differently (although really it's treating them according to their needs). This is probably why they justify it with diagnoses within schools. They can't allow one kid who focuses better when doing headstands and roly polies (my youngest, funnily enough) to do so, when the rest can't focus while doing that, but will feel unfairly treated if they aren't allowed to also do it. So I do see why schools have to go the diagnosis route, although even then I'm sure other kids will see it as unfair and want to know why they can't be "special".