The first thing I did to get to that sweet sweet sleeping routine my kid is on right now is to forget all the routine that other parents taught me. I used to stress out about that afternoon nap time because thenkid just doesn't want to have that nap. I know I do, but she doesnt so no more afternoon nap times.
Right now she sleeps at 8-ish, 9-ishin the evening and wales up at 7 or 8 in the morning. I tire her out during the day with all the activities I could think of. Sometimes it's just running back and forth, or just jumping. It's taking all of my energy but that also means by nightfall, she's gonna be ready to snooze as soon as she gets her night time bath.
She used to sleep at 2am before. It's killing me because when she's awake, that means I can't do any of my personal stuff. But one day, she just decided she wants to sleep early.
I think routines are good, as long as you see your kid also wants it. As long as they get enough sleep time, it doesn't matter whether they sleep at 8pm or at 12mn.
Sounds similar to us, my wife is being hit hard by it. Unfortunately I work 9-5 so my wife wears the brunt. I do take time out to engage with my daughter. But this leads me to another post tonight I think.
Perhaps @homeedders can grow to include parental support and discussion?