if it's not too personal. How can a person NOT KNOW? I knew when something was wrong. As a child when mom handed out butt whippings, i knew if i deserved it and didn't hate her for it. My sister & brother were a little different... but i knew. We chose to go along, or not. Responsibilty is such that we that are responsible didn't take the easy route of life. We missed the party, to stay with a loved one that couldn't go.. etc. etc. etc.
Not everyone was a f-up in life. Some of my closet friends can't have a conversation now because they took the wrong path, & I hear it in their voices. They can't even allow a two way conversation... etc. etc. etc.
There is so much difference when someone does the right things in life, and those that didn't. it shows up later in life. etc. etc. etc etc.
it's like a small plot that everyone is aware but is scared to talk about it.
that ain't gonna help anyone. i have heard it.. i have seen it. I didn't want ANY part of that .