You are so cute @donna-metcalfe 😍 beautiful and happy too. I don't have any picture when I was at that age with me but surely my parents have it and I remember all our photos because sometimes through the Whatsapp group, my siblings would take a screeshot and sent it to the chat group where my mommy and Bapak also the member of the group😂 then we will talked about our situation at that time or compare it with one of our nephews, nieces and children (we have 12 now).
I took a short time to do what you've suggested here, the first question that I asked to her is "are you that pretty so people will hurt you for having such a lovely eyes and well spoken?" I tried many times to take her out but I need a little more time to get her out of the comfort zone with her books and blanket. Wish me luck 😊
Thank you for sharing your experience and thoughfull post again, donna 😉 I always find it helpfull to manage my eagerness of covering the real me from the world.
Thank you! I think I was pretty cute at that age!
I'm glad you are trying this experiment!
It is a very private thing to do. And it's not a do it once and you're done kind of thing.
You might like to start with talking to her at first in a loving way. Like you would to one of your nieces or nephews, or other small child you have just met, instead of starting out with questions that might make her nervous. Make some trust between you. You are starting a relationship and it will take the time it needs to grow.
You could find that she is sad or even angry. When she is ready she will tell you how she feels and you can decide together how you want to go on from there. My little girl felt like I had abandoned her, locked her away, and she was right. Why should she trust me, just popping in after years of neglect? She wouldn't talk to me at first, but I kept opening my heart to her and loving her. And then carefully listening to what she wanted to say.
Uhmm.. actually I read her diary before😊 I knew exactly why she refuses to talk and choose a book over me😯 but I'll wait for her to talk to me too, she's not an introvert, a popular little girl who is busy with others business, that's why she looking for the abswer from the books and think about it under her furry blanket. But.. it's just a matter of time when she comes out and play with me as we used to be when we're still one and I started to abandoned her because I thought that we're in need of our times up.
That's me donna, I respect other choices and will wait till they come to me willingly, but never let any chance to show them my love and compassion gone by. We'll make it through the time. Her name is lizzie not cici😇
Wow that is a lot of progress already! I think you have exactly the right understanding of little Lizzie! It sounds like respect is important to her too. I think you will be great friends together.
Thank you donna 😊 I knew her very well, but sometimes I just let her alone. Your post remind me to her that I need to take her out today to meet our old friends from junior high school 😉