Those are indeed good intentions and only one road can be paved with them, sadly. Apart from that I do agree with most of your stuff and would be down with playing my part as much as the next man, yet I believe that the approach has to be a lot more structured and not "general" as it would strongly depend on circumstances. Although I believe that any good force has to be a "force" still.
No. I disagree. That saying is an oversimplification. Sometimes you do have to stand up for what is right. Look at the civil Rights movement of the sixties. Did it make things perfect? No, but things did get better. Now is like then. It may not be perfect when we're done, but things will get better. This is a clear path to global de-escalation of violence and de-nuclearizarion. It is a step in the right direction.