thank you:)
Have you made the experience not to care about the outer coat of a person (his momentarily taken identity) and looked through it? Did you sense his or her presence underneath small talk? Is it up to the other person to give meaning to a conversation or is it of more importance to encourage the other one to show what's deeper to see & feel within him or her?
What if you were always able to overcome the cruch from your side? Even to dropp all expectations?
For my part I rarely make this experience to free myself from the wish that other people make the effort to reach what is true for the moment. But when it happens, it's the best:)
Most of the time when I look through the small talk, I soon find dead hollow ends. It's very rare to find great value beyond the outer coat of a person. Like the character in my profile pic, I have a tendency to make people open themselves up to me. But People with great value inside them are rare. Most times I've met someone I've had a deep conversation with, there was not much of an outer coat to begin with.
what a pitty! But I guess you are on a good way to compensate that, as well as the rest of us who like to get in conversations here on the platform. This gives hope and the realization that there are more people than one might assume with what we are seeking.
This is the reason I'm so in love with steemit. We are continents apart in a crowd noise of 7+ billions and yet we connect.
That's something to ponder upon @erh.germany ... I don't know why but I almost automatically identify & judge people through their eyes and their tone of voice and that pretty much reveals everything you know... The gaze in their eyes and the passion in their voice pretty much describes who they are and predetermines my reaction. I might need to change myself though...
Thanks, @creatovert. As we as social beings swing together, my voice and tone would swing with yours, if we would get to meet each other physically.
When I encounter people the first time I would probably do some small (identity)talk in order to feel, listen and gaze at them and they would probably do the same, no? If I prepare myself to concentrate my best interest on them, it might change something. From superficiality and dishonesty to something more authentic. I guess that change only happens when I am ready for expecting the best out of humans. Of course this is no guarantee for a valuable encounter. But chances become bigger that my "service" may work.
In the end it's more of a habit one can learn to cultivate. I am far from perfect and probably won't reach the highest ideal:)
Thank you for your response. Learned a thing or two from you @erh.germany ... I'll try and apply that. I guess I just need to reprogram my habit then