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"I refuse to do anything with malice."
...if we could persuade the entire rest of the planet to leave malice at the rubbish bin,
life would improve.

A manageable step is to try to give the benefit of the doubt that others aren't being malicious towards them. It at least makes the initial reaction instead a misunderstanding or miscommunication. (Most people aren't great at meaning what they say)
This alone is a win in my book, conversations to clarify can easily begin without negative emotions and defense mechanisms.
People don't freak out about "shit happening" but get instantly up in arms when "they are doing something to you. "

This is actually one of the main characteristics people included into my utopia concept, "don't act on malice, believe others in community don't act on malice. "