Can you really say sorry to someone?
Are you able to move into that space of deep acknowledgement of your own faults and give a genuine heart-based sorry for being in the wrong?
It's a tough one.
It really is.
Because by saying sorry we admit we are not flawless beings (as we hope to be) and it is an automatic inward journey to ourselves.
If you feel the need to say sorry to someone (or even to yourself!), it means you hold the capacity to look within.
To criticize yourself.
To see your own faults.
And in reality, this is something which is not second nature to us.
It's WAY easier to dig your head in the theoretical sand and to just forget about what you did wrong.
But in the longterm, it's actually very good.
I see a lot of people around me that really struggle with saying sorry.
And the people who have the most trouble with saying it, are (in my mind) the people who have developed the least emotionally wise. (YES, a big statement to make but I made it anyway)
A big part of it is because I will call people out on their shit.
And not in a nasty negative way.
But in an honest loving perspective.
And talk from my own experience and how whateve they did, affected me.
Without judgement.
Without blame.
So for example, if someone has said something quite rude towards me.
Instead of getting angry at them and shouting, I will say something along the lines of:
What you just said, made me feel hurt and angry.
And most of the time, the person will step back emotionally and have a little think about what they REALLY just said.
And it'll hit them that it was wrong.
And they'll move into a space where they can reflect on themselves and out comes a genuine apology.
The same goes for myself.
If I have been a bit of an emotional dickwad and have been insensitive for whatever reason, I REALLY appreciate it when someone calls me out and helps me realize that what I am doing isn't very love-based.
And then the emotional sorry, deep gratefulness will pour out of me.
I truly think that by learning to say sorry and not running away from doing that, you are going to be a better human being!
For yourself but also for others.
It is a key thing to master in life.
Because it deeply means you are willing to reflect and learn and grow as a person.
Can you REALLY say sorry from the depth of your heart and mean it?
Do you struggle with it?
Here's to saying sorry!
Here's to becoming a better human being!
Here's to self-reflection and growth!
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BIG love,
Ashley
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@ashleykalila I'm also a big fan of being as honest as possible when it comes to my feelings in the moment, especially when I feel that it was inspired by another's actions. I've had my fair share of difficulties with those who either didn't quite understand that they were doing something wrong... or did know that it was wrong, but couldn't drop their ego enough to say "sorry."
The responsibility you can take (as you said here) is sharing how you feel, why you feel that way, and what that other person can do to avoid this issue.
I also wanted to note that I've often fallen into the trap of thinking that someone else's actions are the result of how I feel. This isn't the case because no one can actually MAKE me feel any particular way. I'm feeling what I'm feeling and no one else besides me is in control of that. Thus, when I do share what I'm feeling, I really try to come from a place of saying: "When you do this, I feel this" rather than "you make me feel this when you do this."
It's subtle but it definitely makes a difference in the long run.
Great post @ashleykalila! I'm following :)
PS: I'd love to hear your thoughts about my recent post: Want To Get What You Don't Already Have? The Art Of Compersion Will Get You There!
I think the skill to describe what you feel when hurt instead of hurting the other person is invaluable.
There is nothing more sexier than my lover apologising; she says the same for me.
Authenticity and vulnerability is sexy!!!
Saying sorry can be really difficult but it helps a lot , nice post @ashleykalila
While reading this, I realized that I have some ''sorry'' waiting to be said. :D I am going to do it right now. :D
Nice post and a good point of view on the subject 👌🌸
Opppsss... sorry.. did i disturb you? Lols
Actually, saying sorry is not that difficult if you love the person involve isnt it..
An apology is the best way to say the last word..
It doesnt matter if your right or wrong..
Interesting your post!
Hopefully the next post is more interesting