It's hard when it's from your perspective. You know the circumstances leading up to behaviors so you don't see those behaviors negatively a lot of the time. But if you take things out of context and just say you did something blatantly then think about how that thing alone would sound to someone else, it gives you a little perspective. I can be kind of controlling but it comes from a fear of abandonment so it took time to understand it was a negatively learned behavior and not healthy for anyone. Now, when I think about doing something questionable, I take it out of context and think about how it would sound to a complete stranger. Not too much though. Start to feel crazy after a little bit.
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That's interesting. I wonder what results you've taken from that. I honestly don't pretend to understand others!