So I have been a father now for a little more than two days. 1 I am really tired, and 2, I don't know how it is done without a partner. I mean unless I adopt I would not even have the kid, there is 9 months of eating and caring for the kid already. But I am really surprised with how much stuff I had to do.
Here is the list.
Hold Moms hand during pushing.
Cut the Cord.
Within 5 min of cutting the cord the nurse weighed and cleaned baby, then was like you want to put on the first diaper. Boom done.
Hold baby and calm them down while they are finishing up on wife.
Get wife water, and bring over baby to be feed and get skin to skin time.
Notify waiting Grandparents and uncles on what the status is.
Pass out Pink bubble gum Cigars.
Listen to doctors on what to do.
This is where it gets real, once everyone leaves. Help Mom in and out of bed to use bathroom etc.
Make sure she is eating and drinking enough for milk production.
Make sure to hold and burp baby after eating.
Change baby again.
Talk to all the nurses so mom can sleep.
Get mom up and hook her back up after the bathroom. Due to the wife having a blood clot issue, she always has to wear the leg compression machine in the hospital.
Help her feed baby, take baby so she can sleep.
Really I became the personal assistant, but if you are a single mom you have no time to rest. I only slept for 2 hours the first 36 hours of our babies life. Not that she was really crying, but just there is that much stuff to do. Make sure both of my ladies were getting what they needed food, water, diapers, love, ice packs, and snugs. Okay snugs and love are close to the same thing. But I am impressed that one person could do all that, especially after giving birth. I could not imagine how exhausted they would be.
Right on! Exactly. LOL I am now 47 and looking forward to some rest. Just sayin'
this is a lie, I sleep, just for a hour here and there. I do miss my sleeping 8 hours days
it gets easier after a few years... ;) mostly good things and precious moments. wishing you the best man.
This is accurate.
Add a second and you'll never "sleep in" times 2.
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It simultaneously gets harder and easier as time goes on.
It goes in evolutions -- one thing becomes simple (changing diapers) and you're immediately presented with a new challenge (getting them to sleep without losing your mind). Every day is a possibility for a new behavior or challenge that you've never seen before, but there is an ever growing list of things that you've mastered.
You're right though... single parenting is absurd and madness. It may be possible, but it can't be easy to do it well, especially if they're working and dropping their kids off at a daycare.
Congrats. I hope one of you wants to be the full-time parent! Very rewarding!
Yep, wife gets 6 weeks leave, we will make our decision after that is done. I enjoy the kid, ask me when she is 18 and see if I say the same.
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father is very busy bathing the child
Congrats on the baby. You're just beginning a very exciting journey. It sounds like you're doing a great job. Pro tip: Don't eat the bubblegum cigars. No one knows how old they are, but we're all pretty sure they're stale when they're manufactured. ;)
Hope you get some sleep soon!
good post @bigram13. beautiful baby I also really like a baby
Yes single mom's are the most underappreciated people on the planet I think. They have no help and have to do it all alone. How is it possible? I am not sure but hope I never have to find out. Your wife is lucky to have you there as a partner.
Ya make sure to tell her that for me.
Joys of fatherhood. It's stressful at first but then you can't trade that feeling for anything else in the world . Congratulations
My husband just went overseas to work. We have to explain it to our 2 year old, and he is cool with him, until Dad goes, and my mum has to face the question, tears, ask where 'Daddy', and feel sad I'm like a mom try to explain.I'm pretty nervous right now while the hubby goes, just because Reeve is in an age where he realizes what's happening more now. He questioned everything.@bigram13
Congratulations my friend to you and your wife. Yes women are amazing and single moms raising kids who do a good job are perhaps the most amazing of all. We need a better societal net to help these women raise our futures. Stay strong and sleep when you can.
It sounds like you did everything you need to do to be there for your wife and newborn child. The fact of the matter is nothing is easy in life. Being a dad is one of those things that is always going to be tough but is going to be rewarding on a level that you could never imagine before. You may think that there is no way you could do it on your own but you will become a well-oiled daddy machine in no time. My hat is off to moms as they are the ones that set the gold standard and it amazes me all that they are able to do. I thought the same way as you when I first had a kid but I jumped right in there and got messy because I wanted to experience every last bit of it. I see you as a dad that will do the same thing and you will enjoy every bit of it. Now, as my children get older, I do it all when my kids are with me. I help with makeup and hair and everything in between. Enjoy it all!!!
Ya, We are trying to enjoy it for sure, in a matter of time, they will be 18 and moving out. ahhh
Yes it is really hard work. I had my mum and my wife's mum to help us luckily.
heartiest congratulations for new family member, the baby will bring happiness for you all ,
kisses for baby !
firstly nice you've had a baby sure it will change your life!
Why are there so many single mums in the first place?
which in itself is a huge problem
huge tax burden
and its not good for the child
i think some single parents needed to chose a better partener in the first place, one that may stay with them and are financially secure!
controversial i know
Ya, there is no handbook on how to pick a partner, but in the old days you would make it work. Now as soon as something isn't perfect people move on the a quote "greener pasture, and sometimes that does not exist."
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Well said sir.....they need the help and the deserve it....thanks for letting us know
Thank you for [email protected] the day gets closer I have wondered if we would hear from you...... and here you are with a contest no less. ^__^
I am thinking of your good lady every day.
Here is wishing you two all the best.
Cheers.
NB Is that the cutest photograph of a baby or what? Good selection.