How often we try to convince someone or, are convinced of not doing something that has been planned for a while, because of fear?
I was talking to a friend yesterday before going to bed, a friend who I haven't talked for quite a while due to our busy life in different continents. While talking I was sharing with her my plans for the future, dreams and how I got to know what I wanted to do in life, and the first thing I heard was "I have a friend who did that, failed miserably and now is, blah blah bla...". It felt like a punch in my face.
Of course I tried to convince I could have another experience, but it was kinda too late, I was already too down to keep talking. I told her then it was almost 2am in the Netherlands and that I had to go to bed.
By going to bed I meant just rolling like if I was a gnocchi strip over the table. Her words couldn't stop ecchoing in my mind, till the point I was dreaming about the whole conversation. Around 4am I got up, drank a sip of water, took a huge breath and told myself I should let it go and rest my mind. So I finally slept.
In her mind she was probably thinking "I'm just gonna warn her, right", in my mind it was "I'm failing again, my life has no purpose, I'm useless, what was I thinking?". That's war!
She probably went to bed, dreamt about catching butterflies in paradise, while I dreamt about her words the whole f* night.
Yesterday, another friend told me someone very mean said if she doesn't pass her exame fast, she will never be able to work in her career again. Why would you say this to someone? Why would you project your insecurities and negativity to someone else who's working hard to build her life?
If you are afraid of your friend failing in x thing, why don't you just say you'll be there to support whatever it happens, or just say you trust this person will do its best, or even, I root for you!
Watch your words! Be a bit more kind, say something a little more positive, your reality only exists in your own mind. And c'mon, do you really wish your friend to fail? What kind of friend are you?
And for you who is constantly listening this kind of judgement, be brave, get your shi* together and keep fighting. Nobody's gonna make your dreams come true, but you. We can't afford missing our passions because of people's fear. Can we? But we can afford trying! Yes we can!
Let's work towards our dreams every second of our life, because if this is what makes us happy, then there's nothing to worry about. And let's watch our words, our thoughts, or wishes. Do we really mean it, or are we trying to have a reason to speak up?
In summa: be carefull out there!
There are many people who are pessimistic , very cautious, always fear for the worst but the person who is optimistic will only succeed, no matter how many times he/she fails, will never quit. Achieving your dream is about first defining it very clearly and finally taking smart action toward accomplishment with an optimistic approach and shouldn't bother with any negativity that comes around the path of the goal.
always be who you are... i get from the post
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Similarily, when the crypto market dips, people start with the FUD (Fear, Uncertainty and Doubt)
In life and in crypto, you get to choose whether the HODL (Hold on for Dear Life), Sell or BTFD (Buy the freaking dip). When you start thinking about selling, you get the FOMO (Fear of missing out).
Then, you start losing sleep.
Noone can predict the future. Actions that have failed for others might work for you.
These are friends? You need friends like this like you need enemies! Are they jealous of what you have? What you want out of life? This is crazy. These are your dreams and you will find a way to make them happen! I have every confidence that you will be very successful in whatever you put our mind to do! To heck with nay sayers!
so much truth to your words
the world is full of people with hate and bitterness welled up inside them and just looking for someone to rub it off on, sometimes we let that someone be us but that should not be...in the end the only person responsible for your uplifting and happiness is none other than "you"...never stop cos fight is always on