I believe strongly that our childhood is the most important period of our life, not because it defines who we are for life, but it has a very strong impact on the people we will become. Many of us go through periods of time in our childhood that may affect us or our beliefs for life. I am a strong believer that people can change if they want to, but it is incredibly hard to escape things that happened when we were young. On the flip side I believe many of us are also trying to relive the experiences we had during our childhood, for life.
There is a saying that when you are a child you have time and energy but no money, as an adult money and energy but no time and when you are old you have money and time but no energy. I think this is relevant as it outlines three stages in our life that we go through and the hobbies or interests that might go through them. I personally have a very fond memory of my childhood, even if things were bad at times, I remember the good times that I would kill for these days. Having a few good friends, hanging out after school and just being kids was the best time of my life. These days we hardly keep in touch, everyone is doing their own thing and it honestly makes me sad.
I think part of the reason many people like me collect things we couldnt afford during our childhood was that we are desperately trying to go back. Yes you could say we are manchildren, but I think at the heart of it, we just want to go back to a time we were happy. I talk to the friends I have now and everyone just seems miserable. The highlight of their week is going out and getting shitfaced enough to forget the week and do it all over again. This isn't what I consider a good time and often pass on these outings. As an adult it is hard to make friends as well which only adds to the feeling of being alone. I buy things that remind me of my childhood because they make me remember the good times for a moment.
There are benefits to being an adult but honestly im not sure that I will ever completely grow out of the child that is inside me. I would probably say that isnt a good thing, but we only have a limited time so if buying something from your childhood makes you happy, do it. I wish I could be like everyone else and move on, but its hard when you just arent excited about what the future holds. I like simple and things back then were simple and there was no looming expectation of you to meet people's and society's standards. Now I feel like if im doing something that is out of the norm I am look down upon.
I know im not the only one that feels liken this and I know many other people that are desperately trying to hold onto any part of their childhood that they can. I doubt I will be successful in the long run and part of me wishes my friends of old thought the same. I wish we could get together every weekend huddled around the tv playing video games like we used to, but real life gets in the way. People have work that needs to be done, bosses to please, ect. Adult life is complicated and in my perception, it hold many undesirable traits. You work your ass off, barely get recognized, live a dreadful life, finally get to retire then die. Im oversimplifying it, but you can see where im coming from. I would give up everything I have now to go back to those days with my friends just being kids.
-Calaber24p
I'm sure that so many can relate to these feelings @calaber24p! Two things occur to me, the first is that I'm so glad that you had such a positive childhood, that is really a blessing. Maybe it could be worthwhile writing some of your memories down as a part of @ericvancewalton's memory project (?), I know I would enjoy reading them!
The second is that my experience was/is so different. I have always been so relieved to be older and literally never want to go back even a year or 2. And as a kid I was just living for the day when I could leave home and be my own person out in the world, I really couldn't wait and can remember dreaming about my independence. Even though I do have some good memories from childhood amidst the hard stuff, mostly I was just biding my time anxious to be on my own and responsible for myself. I somehow knew that my life wouldn't really begin until then!
I find it really amazing how different experiences can be and really enjoy learning about such an opposite perspective.
Hey nature! Ill check out erics memory project. I cant say that all my childhood was good, in fact there were some very bad times, but I still think it was overall a very happy time. I think part of me wants to get out on my own but is unsure I will be able to cut it. Im actually looking into buying investment real estate for the purpose of having a passive income so I will be able to at least pay the bills no matter what. Maybe when I get to that point I will think about moving out. I bought a new house with my mom because she didnt have the money and wanted to get out of apartment living, so I think ill stay here for a year or so, but I still need to move on.
I understand and yes getting out on one's own is makes all the difference and if you can make it work with investment real estate that's ideal!
I don't think that will help. Buying seldom buys happiness to start with, but childhood happiness?
Children are not happy if they have the most expensive toys, and that is also true for grown ups. What you try to buy are feelings "in the background", but feelings you can't buy.
Maybe even more important is that the biggest part of why children's days seem to be so happy is because there were no worries.
Of course there were, but a bad mark in school? It all seems so small compared to grown-up problems, if we remember at all.
But again, buying stuff does not exchange the big for a small worry.
Also children live in the here and now, while we always think of what could happen, or even worse, what could have happened. Why relive the hurtful yesterday again and again?
I agree. Buying the things you want or had from your childhood will never fill that longstanding void, but it might in the short term make you happy for a few moments. There were definitely bad times of being a child but for people like me, the adult world just seems joyless. A lot of it is frame of mind, but there is a bit of truth to it as well, in my opinion. I think we want to relive the past because in a way its familiar and things are always better in hindsight.
Answer: yes , next question
That is to easy.
People often think they have no time to *relive * their childhood, so they buy stuff.
Means the answer should be: No, next question ;)
Hi calaber24p,
I think most of us trying to relive our painful experiences which are still vivid in our subconscious mind.
Some of us never really group up within our minds from these childhood mind set.
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It may also be a bit more insidious in some regard... as example, I can remember vivid details of all the old cartoons (yes even black and white ones). SO the question may be... did these "Programs" lock in our child brain as opposed to allowing our adult brain? Or is it just simply long term memory is far superior to short term?What was I talking about?
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