I hear you... that's part of what scares me most about our world; this seeming "narrowing" of what is perceived as "normal." And so, if we're not "normal" we feel pressure to comform... except the range we're expected to fit into gets smaller and smaller. And then we need treatment and medication... which kills uniqueness and creativity.
You paraphrased one of my favorite Krishnamurti quotes: "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society." Indeed.
We have to "vote" with our authentic selves... step away from the trends and trendies; and not let ourselves be bullied by them... instead, we must hold up "mirrors" for them so they can see the fake reflections they are adopting.
You said this so well, I agree and didn't know Krishnamurti came to the same conclusion ...druging us and putting us in prison is a true sign of insanity.