I then now truly believe that if we are in the middle of our life n death or if our time is coming we can those loved ones that already departed to welcome us in the other side of our journey. My father also rest in peace later last year and as what my mama said my papa will look here and there that seems he is seeing thing in there. Then she ask my papa what u are looking at he will answered names of his friends which already pass away, and sometimes he will said he saw my mother's mother waiting for him and so are his parents. My mama said with teary eyes, though my heart broke I will encourage mama to not let papa see her crying just let papa know it's ok if he will go and ur ok with it. I won't let mama see my teary eyes to convince her that if papa's time is coming then let it be, let him assured that mama will be fine with us so that he won't feel worried when he will go. One day Papa said he is so tired already for we knew he has pained and tired being in bed and can't do the anything for he used to be so active and working person. His bed redden for a few months and we knew it is so hard tiresome for him, for he can't even move side to side for it's hurt as he will said. Until one day mama said to him if you go then go peacefully don't worry about me for I know we can see each other again. Then after a day or so papa sweat so much while eyes closed it seems like he travelled or walk so far in his dream. Then he slowly open his eyes and signal mama to go a little far from him, or said just go over there don't sit beside me, or do what u have to do don't watch me but mama hesitate to leave.him and guess what my papa do for the last time! He push or something like held his hand with his last strength just to let mama go away and his hand landed on my Mama's mouth! Mama go away for it hurts (hahaha) she feels anger knowing papa seems like slap her (we laugh talking about this, and I said because your a hard headed) for now we knew why papa do it, papa wants mama to go away so she can't see when papa lost his last breath, because when mama back to checked on him, papa already rest with a face just like sleeping and so peaceful. Mama cried for she only walk to drink water not even a minute when she came back papa already pass away. And that's why papa wants mama to go away from him and do that thing so mama won't see him leaving but instead mama will see him just sleeping.
@lynncole1 I know it's hard seeing our loved one suffered in pained. Just let him assured that everything is okey and both of you will be together again. In the right time for him to say goodbye just be prepared and don't let him see u crying for it's more pain for him seeing you crying. I know you are prepared meeting him go, and don't worry about him he will soon be ready to leave you when he will know it's really his time to go. Give the sweetest smile to him when that time comes assuring him you will be fine and accepted the truth in this life. God bless both, but I hope he can recovered and Live more further with you with less pain.
Thank you so much for sharing your story; it made me cry and smile and laugh all at the same time. Your dad didn't want your mom to seem him choosing to leave, which is something I understand, but it sure made me feel sad for your mom. There's something about taking care of someone and loving them, that you just want to be there for that final breath. I appreciate your words though; I understand how important it is to "let him go" when the time is right.
Thank you again, I appreciate it more than I can say.
I'm happy to know that even in a small little way I made u smile. The right time will come, slowly your sadness will be replaced in calmness once u truly accept he needs to go, and that time is when he also have courage to leave u. But for now enjoy both and be happy, let him know your happy and accept it already, so he is happy too when it's parting time. Besides you have the most wonderful gift left.behind, you have your two beautiful sons :) and they need u. Just don't forget if u need someone to talk too, please don't hesitate to let me know, I may just listen while u are singing... I mean talking :). God bless
Thank you so much @dianargenti; I'm really listening to your words, and I appreciate you offering your 'ears' to me.
I know the feeling dear, steem on and God bless!
Thank you, same to you!