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RE: Positive Environment - The Importance of the people surrounding you

in #life7 years ago

What if the way to improve is so complex to your natural way of thinking and it's basically like a whole new network being re wired and it's hard to keep up, you keep getting thrown between either one, because it's such an overload to the system? So ultimately more negativity is being created between the positive people and negative (me) through the tension in the lack of perceived stability. I don't know if that made sense...

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Well it does, one of the things that I learned through NLP is that habits easier to replace than to erase, if you are for example addicted to smoking it will be easier for you to quit if you replace the ritual with something else ( my friend chew a gum every time he wanted to smoke). I believe it's the same with Ideas, but you really need to find the connection between them in order to do it.
Why wont you tell me which negative idea you feel pulling you back?

I guess because I am still piecing " it"all together, "it"scares me. "iT"has been so everyday for my whole life, and now I am finding the connections as to WHY. Here "I" go. As a child I had little support and minimal love from my family, Not always a roof over the head. I was physically abused by one and emotionally by the other. I was told that I was just not loved. Later in life when I was sexually abused by a family friend I thought I was alone. So I made myself alone. There was no one to confide in for the fear of being pushed away. A very justified fear. Because my support, my family? Zilch. So through this I have managed to seclude myself from making any real connections (everyone just leaves in my mind, my parents did, my friends could only take so much of "knowing" I was distant, without becoming distant themselves. and those that I do have in my life. I am treating with this same distant mentality (selfishly protecting myself) .. FOR ONCE in my life I am asking myself questions and listening to my thoughts and following them, instead of listening to the first thing that pops into my mind, which 9/10 is such a warped thought process, filled with fear. ( heart go back into your chest please, thankyou mind for staying strong right now) my mind and heart are so out of balance.

Well, you already know the answer, you have to take care of your fear and emotions. we respond to what we feel not to real logic, so you need to make your thought prosses without fear. It's up to you how you do it and what you do with the memories that haunt you. All I can say is that NLP therapy may have the tools to help you, and learning NLP your self may give you those tools. What we feel and believe is really shaped by experience (memory), you need to find a way to change those things.

I will be doing some active reading on NLP and NLP therapy. I think That's why I asked you too read my post. I have a strong thought that I am seeking out some guidance, and you are doing just that, I really enjoy connecting in such a positive way 🙃 It makes me FEEL happy.. This world is a roller coaster and we really do just have to enjoy the ride.

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Looking forward to your next post. Time for lucid land. Wonder where I am going tonight? I have been exploring Really new places lately. I have had the ability to open portals in anything and jump through, but the different realms are so foreign to this other "main" realm, it becomes hard to navigate. I don't even know if I'm walking swimming or floating most of the time. There kinda all the same here. Even to breathe, it takes more effort. And I am not really sure what I am doing in them (because everything was being physically blurred) but I am beginning to find ways through the people and myself to unblur what is around me, and give me the ability to see their world. Just for what it is.

Whoopsie forgot to post 🌺

Next post was already up when you wrote this ^^