Positive Environment
You are a product of your environment
Jim Rohn, a famous motivator said "we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with". Wouldn't it be smart then, to have the people around you positive, supportive people who want to succeed? Maybe people with same goals?
Not everyone is positive
Isn't it fun to be around people we love? people that we enjoy being around, people that support us, people that make you laugh, people that think like you. But... of cause, there are people who won't support you as much and they won't believe in you, maybe they have negative personality in general. when you tell them about your dreams or what you want/plan to do, they will probably say it's not a good idea and you won't make it.
Let's not blame them, it's not their fault... that's what the environment taught them and they did not have too many people that would motivate them and push them forward. Those people haven't experienced much success in their life, they don't live the life they want and mostly they will have hard time to imagine other people succeed, they can go to an extent of saying it's impossible and if you tell them about other people who did it they will say that luck played a big part.
Is it time to ditched your friends?
First, you need some self-awareness and ask your self which people in my life are toxic and which people having a positive impact on my life. I'm not saying you should cut connection with every friend who is not 100% supportive but I'm saying that you should try to be honest with yourself, maybe there are few people that are just delaying you in your way to success or even blocking you! Maybe you should lessen the time you spend around them if you are unable to make them more positive.
There are positive People!
The people I mentioned at the beginning of the post, those who support us, those who believe in us, those who you enjoy being with and they will always remind us of our goals ( sometimes you share goals and then it will really become powerful).
Those people, you want around you! an environment that pushes you and you push them back toward your goals. Remember that you are a product of your environment, if your goal is to be successful you should bring more successful people around you! If you want to be a better person you should bring good people around you. If your goals and friends match they will become your life!
Create a positive environment
Create a positive environment
How we do it? How to create a positive environment? As I see it there are two options:
The first one is to make the people around you more positive, Give the reinforcement, give them feeling of joy, help them get more motivated, celebrate their success with them, encourage them to have positive mindset, reply in a less negative manner and overall create the feeling of fun and before you notice it they will do the same! I would even say that after your relationship will improve through this behavior they will do it with other people without consciously understanding it, they will become positive.
The second one is to meet new people, every new person you meet and feel like you could be a positive influence on each other, keep in touch with them! There's no secret here. if you had a good conversation and enjoyed the time together there is no reason you shouldn't meet again. Notice that you meet new people every day, through your friends, your hobbies and everytime you leave your house. And if you don't feel like you meet enough people, you should probably leave your house and start talking to people! Go do sports, go out with friends, do everything that comes to your mind but you can't expect to meet new friends if you are not social.
Remember, people automatically feel more connected to other people that think like them and act like them. Think positive and keep beside you the positive people that like your attitude!
For the summary, I want to end this article with this inspirational video by Robin Sharma:
What is NLP?
"The map is not the territory" - Breaking Down Reality
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Haha, That's true my brother ;)
Working in the creative feild, starting to surround myself with people who work hard, want to succeed, and want others to succeed has been a game changer. I wouldn't have learned/progressed nearly as fast.
That being said, I can still work to surround myself with people who are even better. Great post @paps
Thank you so much! ;)
I feel you, once I filled my surroundings with quality people my life changed, I could feel my self change!
Another nice one. My friend Mashuk suggested he and I reevaluate who we spend our time with, and as I type this, I'm in the company of my 3 good suitemates very happy with my decision.
Happy to hear that!
Once we decide to really observe our lives objectively we can make positive change :D
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I have been dealing with a demotivated staff for few months now and nothing more breaks my heart that this - it is most important to motivate them and keep yourself happy and positive tooo!!
Our motivation has to be fed some way or another, if not we spiral back into negativity. I know this very well and felt it on my flesh, but now I take responsibility for my own motivation ^^
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This post is full of positive which i the most
thanks :)
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Very good advice. i always try to surround myself with good positive people. Being around negative people saps my energy.
Exactly!
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@paps Very purposeful and meaningful post and absolutely relevant in Today's times.
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Thank you, brother!
Very nice writing.
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Totaly agree with your post and try to keep near me people who are possitive like me.😊
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Great post!
Thanks!
environment is very important for human health
What if you are the bad person?
*negative?
Good, you corrected yourself ^^
I guess you need to want to improve in order to improve. If there's an Idea stuck in your head that's your responsibility.
What if the way to improve is so complex to your natural way of thinking and it's basically like a whole new network being re wired and it's hard to keep up, you keep getting thrown between either one, because it's such an overload to the system? So ultimately more negativity is being created between the positive people and negative (me) through the tension in the lack of perceived stability. I don't know if that made sense...
Well it does, one of the things that I learned through NLP is that habits easier to replace than to erase, if you are for example addicted to smoking it will be easier for you to quit if you replace the ritual with something else ( my friend chew a gum every time he wanted to smoke). I believe it's the same with Ideas, but you really need to find the connection between them in order to do it.
Why wont you tell me which negative idea you feel pulling you back?
I guess because I am still piecing " it"all together, "it"scares me. "iT"has been so everyday for my whole life, and now I am finding the connections as to WHY. Here "I" go. As a child I had little support and minimal love from my family, Not always a roof over the head. I was physically abused by one and emotionally by the other. I was told that I was just not loved. Later in life when I was sexually abused by a family friend I thought I was alone. So I made myself alone. There was no one to confide in for the fear of being pushed away. A very justified fear. Because my support, my family? Zilch. So through this I have managed to seclude myself from making any real connections (everyone just leaves in my mind, my parents did, my friends could only take so much of "knowing" I was distant, without becoming distant themselves. and those that I do have in my life. I am treating with this same distant mentality (selfishly protecting myself) .. FOR ONCE in my life I am asking myself questions and listening to my thoughts and following them, instead of listening to the first thing that pops into my mind, which 9/10 is such a warped thought process, filled with fear. ( heart go back into your chest please, thankyou mind for staying strong right now) my mind and heart are so out of balance.
Well, you already know the answer, you have to take care of your fear and emotions. we respond to what we feel not to real logic, so you need to make your thought prosses without fear. It's up to you how you do it and what you do with the memories that haunt you. All I can say is that NLP therapy may have the tools to help you, and learning NLP your self may give you those tools. What we feel and believe is really shaped by experience (memory), you need to find a way to change those things.
You can take me, but you will never take my bunghole, Hm heh.... For I am the Great Cornholio Hm heh I have no bunghole, hm heh...
Sometimes, it's better to influence people than be influenced by them... I always believe that it should start with ourselves... If we want change to happen in our life, we had better do it first... and everything else will follow... :) Thanks for sharing, @paps! ^_^
Thank you! :D
Broken and depressive people are the best. It is most beautiful to have friends like those. And when you are surrounded by destructive collective, it only means that it is predetermined to be destructed and everyone is just doing his job to finish it as fast as possible. There are really some spheres job's for example that are not supposed to exist. Or schools that aren't teaching students anything. End is a new beginning. But the truth is that we really personally suffer in such spheres...
Truth!
We tend to be the aggregate sum of what we are around most. Shortest distance between two points begins with aligning the self and then making the outward adjustment.
Thanks!