How dating can be different depending on age group.

in #life7 years ago

Even if you have dated once in your life, you would know the confusion of going for him or not. You might ask your friends ‘how do I know if he is the right one for me’? The truth of the matter is, you don’t need to ask anyone what kind of a person is best suited for you. The answer lies within you.


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If you are a girl with princess syndrome, loves to throw tantrums and focuses more on beauty then you are most likely to attract a boy. However, if empowerment, self-accountability, care to make a difference and intelligence rather beauty are your priorities only then you are going to get a real man.

When you give all your heart and life to someone, it is quite natural to expect some in return. You have to play this game carefully and not let any unworthy person rule over you. Getting respect in return is your basic right and only a man can give that.

Here are a few clues you can have to identity who you really are dating.

  • A Man Is More Interested in Your Intelligence Than Your Body


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You can identify who you are dating at this point even in your first meet-up. A boy will rush towards you if you are a pretty lady and start talking to impress you with his ‘talk’. Once you start responding back, sharing your smart ideas you will see an uncomfortable air on his face.

A man, on the other hand, will be impressed more by your intelligence, your ideas rather your body. He would appreciate your smart mind and would not show any sign of wanting intimacy.

  • A Boy Is Never Comfortable in Confronting Serious Talk

The most difficult part for a boy on a date is to confront serious talk. He would prefer to ignore it or give sweeping statements like an irresponsible child. A man, however, is always ready to face any kind of uncomfortable situation and handles is with decency.

  • Who is Most Likely To Stay With You In The Time of Crisis??


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A friend in need is a friend indeed

is equally applicable to your date. If he makes excuses in times of crisis, he simply means that he is not into a serious relation with you. A boy will always leave you alone during your challenging time. Whereas a man will stay with you as your shield, a support. He would rather give you emotional strength to give you empowerment to face the challenge.

  • He is Honest With You

A man is never afraid to pay the price of honesty. He always sticks to the principals and be completely honest no matter what. He does not know whether you will embrace his honesty or hate him for it, he stays honest anyway. Honesty is the most valuable part of a man’s character.

On the contrary, a boy will neither confront your truth nor speak his. He would find it difficult to open up with you for his masculinity and strength will shatter.

  • He Does Not Ask You to Change For Him

Submission is the very first thing love does to you and if it is healthy, it becomes beautiful. But if it’s enforced, it turns ugly. There are a lot of things couples dislike in each other but forcing your opinion on someone while not giving an ear to there is rather a sick behavior.


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A real man will never want you to change your ideals for him. He will rather cherish you for having your own ideals. A boy would make you feel you are not good enough. Be it as personal as a way of dressing or things that make you happy, he will ask you to adopt things he likes because he is concerned about his pleasure only.

  • Self-Accountability Vs No Moral Compass

A man with self-accountability will always take some time out to ponder upon what kind of man he is and what he should be. He admits his mistakes to make the relation healthier. A boy has no moral compass. He has not developed the sense of accountability so he is never responsible for his actions or words.

  • Only Strong Admit Their Mistake

Only a real man can admit his mistakes and promise to make things better. A boy will never confess his mistakes rather play the blame game with you.
Since you have a few clues now, hopefully you can choose a better date for yourself. Remember, if you like to have a man around, you have to make yourself worth him first. A girl will get a boy, a woman will get a man. Decide who you are!

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Great points, and I agree on all of them with you. I dated so many boys until I found my man (although I didn't have that 'princess syndrome', I was just not ready yet I guess). But now I can say it was worth it, considering the love I have with my husband now. He acts and treats me exactly the way how you describe a man will act towards a woman.

I'm not sure where it comes first but I heard it from my friend.
"Make your wife a queen first, you will be a king" . and vice versa.

Nice post really helpful

It's all about relationship and dating. It sounds cool that you wrote a meaning ful impressive article. I appreciate you because what you give it's very natural true. It will help people. Thanks for sharing your valuable post. Good job. You did well. Wish you happy relationship ♥
@jasimg

Good post.

You are making a great article I wish I could become as successful as you and get a voice for me

Extremely nice

It is a commonly accepted idea that men prefer the company of younger women, while women prefer men who are older. This is also in keeping with Parental Investment Theory, which maintains that men are attracted to women who advertise signs of fertility that is, youth. @jasimg great share :D Loved it.

I knew I was gonna marry my wife when she asked to watch me play video games..

This is wife material

impresionante, pocas personas piensa como tu y todo seria muy diferente si prestáramos atención a los detalles como estos

A girl will get a boy, a woman will get a man. Decide who you are!
As nice as this information is from the above statement is, it seems its directed towards they ladies. its sad you left the men with no information in course of our navigation of this relationship lonely road.
But be it as it may one wishes find a lady around my part of the globe who is honest.
who has the ability to stay with you in time of crises
who would not turn out to be over dependent on you as a man

Boys are boys and Men are Men! What separate the boys from men are the qualities that you have cited that could led to a harmonious relationship. Relationship in different age group shows a lot of differences if we talked about honesty, accountability, morality, acceptance, responsibility and a lot more. Relationship needs enough time to ripen, its like a mango fruit the more it ripens the sweeter the taste! We due respect i salute you with your perception about this topic @jasimg...Thanks

This post has received a 34.87 % upvote from @booster thanks to: @jasimg.

i told people that in oder to have a happy family first you must make sure wife is happy... HAPPY WIFE HAPPY LIFE!!! hahahaha...

Hi,there. This is my third day on steemit, and I am hanging out in the trending section getting to know the steemians as I was browsing through the posts I came across yours and I thought it was a really good one.

I want to touch on two things:

  1. Nothing is as exciting and confusing as embarking on the journey of getting to know someone in an intimate way, I deeply enjoy it. Even though there are doubts and fears that pop up, which tend to muddy the waters, and cause stresses that we can sometimes not fight back. But as they say, falling in love drives us a bit mad, and this is a perfect opportunity to come to terms with your imperfections. The Japanese fix pottery with by melting a little bit of gold or silver down, and then using it as the medium to glue the pot back together again. This is what it is like, and I would rather have cracks that form in me, which flaunts my gold and my silver. With honesty you will find the beauty in any person, this is how the gold shines through us. Selfless Giving is how we bring a person to understand their value, and this is the silver.
  2. There are different Kinds of men, there are those who wish to impose themselves onto a woman, to domineer her and govern over her. To force her to submit to their will. This man is a weakling, and most likely a coward. In the extreme they are the ones who beat on their significant other, while towards the mild forms you will find relentless criticism and near evil emotional manipulation. All of this to mask insecurities and uphold their fragile egos. When this man expects change it is to conform to his warped view of the world, this is the change that must be faught off and if you ever find such a man in your life it is urgent that you cut him out as fast as possible

If the change is for the better, like being encouraged to get your freelancing service off of the ground, or getting back into the swing of your art that you used to love so much. This change needs to be embraced as it will inevitably cause the relationship to grow deeper and become stronger.

thank you for your good work.

'Submission is the very first thing love does to you and if it is healthy, it becomes beautiful.' - I just love your point here!