I questioned a post earlier and was met with 'would it have been more valuable if I was in a bikini?' I had questioned the post, not the postER, and I did not know the person's gender identity.
In general I don't think people like being called 'ists' unless they self identify as 'ists'. Susanne saying she is not a 'feminist' may be similar to me saying I am not a 'statist' although it seems like 98.7% of people on steemit would call me one. I don't call myself one so I reject the title. If I read up on it I may decide I like the title, but until then don't.
I'm lucky my IT department is all women, they get stuff done.
Nice glasses!