just don't hear any feminists fighting as aggressively about other women in other countries like they do in our own.
I don't see feminists arguing for men's rights.
I don't see feminists who are not fighting hard for their right to be a victim.
(So, in that last one you're saying you only see feminists who are fighting hard for their right to be a victim? Sorry, that is a confusing sentence. )
You're not looking hard enough, then. Anecdotal evidence doesn't make it true. Scroll through the Steemit front page.
feminism seems much more about cherry picking the best parts of being a dude and none of that other stuff.
I think you need to think about your opinions on gender roles in particular. The fact that you say "the best parts of being a dude" makes me think that you're not quite there on the "equality" part.
I am willing to hear, and to fight for any legitimate issues women face
@susanne and I literally just told you about legitimate issues we face in the workplace. These things happen to women all the time. In 2012, just 18 percent of computer-science college graduates were women, down from 37 percent in 1985. Do it. Fight.
this cannot be achieved when each side feels relentlessly attacked no matter how hard they work towards equality.
You're going to feel uncomfortable sometimes. I do too. People call me out for being racist, or sexist and I have to think about to and reassess my views and actions. This is part of the process. I'm not claiming perfection here.
You say you don't want women to play the victim card, well, don't play the victim card either. You're not being relentlessly attacked (or at least, I don't see evidence of that here). We're having a conversation about being a woman in tech. We address these specific issues with the word feminism because they relate to women.
There are places to speak about overall equality, in this case, we're speaking about Women in Tech. Feminism applies here.