Sometimes We feel like we are failures. We sometimes feel like we can't do anything better.
What we forget though, Is failure is not permanent.
Even if we fail at something very specific. We can often we can make adjustments; these adjustments can get us to where we need to be. Sometimes it takes more than one shot.
Try Again
Sometimes we are overwhelmed with all the decisions that we have to make. We over exaggerate them. Finally, make a decision, and realize it was the wrong one. The beauty of most decisions though, is that many of them can be backtracked.
If you chose blue backpack for example if you really hate that blue backpack you may be able to take it back to the store and get the red backpack instead. Sure this is a very simple example but it can be applied to many areas. If you do a crappy job at the soccer game, you can often do better on the next game. Or if you get kicked out of the team you can try to join the team next year after some practice.
With most things, we have second chances, and We can pursue the exact same thing. Usually, there is a way to try again.
Practice More
I like to see a "failure" as something you aren't. Until you fully give up on life.
You have failed, you are just learning. Sometimes it takes a while to learn. Most of the people who are good at something that we admire spent years of practice. It's very rare that we come across someone who's just automatically great and has that talent. And even then, just because they have talent doesn't mean they're set for life. They often still have to practice. If they stop practicing they lose their abilities. Just because you suck at something doesn't mean you're incapable of becoming good at it.
Growing up, I have always been bad at math. All of my math teachers told me I wouldn't be successful in life because of it. As a child, becoming a scientist was my main goal. But growing up I became very discouraged because I suck at math. I'll never forget that moment in high school. When my math teacher told me flat out, that I would never be successful in life. He told me that because I couldn't do basic math, I would never be able to do anything in my life. He then refused to help me with my math work. And left me there at my desk to try to figure it out on my own. This was in my algebra 2 class. This left me feeling devastated. I eventually changed classes, growing up I remember this, It's always been in the back of my mind. But as I started investing at 16 years old. I began to realize something; sometimes when I was planning my investment. I would pull out a sheet of paper. And start doing math. As a started a business, the same thing happened. Here I was this "failure" who was incapable of doing math. Doing math easily And efficiently. But as I've been getting older, I have been getting better at it. And I realize, that much of the math taught in high school is not necessary.
That I had enough knowledge in order to succeed in life the way I want to. Just because I was a failure when it came to math. Doesn't mean I always have to be a failure with math. This can be applied to everything; if you want to be good at something bad enough, you can have it. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
Try New Method
I'm sure we've all heard this, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result. Oddly we all do this though, why? How hard is it to try something new?
It's a lot harder than we think. Often we get these habits. And they dictate every area of our lives. We don't even think of trying a new method. Instead, We complain about what's going wrong over and over again. Always be mindful of what you're doing. And try to come up with new ways of doing things. This will get more done. Sometimes these new methods can drastically change your life. Sometimes you're failing, because you're just not doing it right. Sometimes you need a tiny adjustment.
When I bought a motorcycle a couple of years ago, I had it shipped here from Michigan to Utah. I went to start out my new motorcycle, and it wouldn't start. I started to wonder if the seller had sold me a bad motorcycle. I changed the oil, I did a bunch of other basic work on it. And it still wouldn't start. Finally, I took it to a mechanic, and a small screw like thing at the bottom of the bike was twisted in the wrong position. He moved back to the proper position. And the bike started right up. I did the same things over and over again, trying to start it up over and over. Charging up the motorcycle battery. And doing it all over again. But the one little thing I didn't try, was the thing causing the problem. As soon as it was fixed, I had this beautiful motorcycle ready to ride.
Sometimes that's all it takes, is a small adjustment. Try new things! Just because you failed a dozen times, Doesn't make you a failure. Just learn what doesn't work, So you can figure out what does work.
It sounds like your math teacher was a lousy teacher if he says something like that to a young student. The problem may not have been your problem. It may have been a teacher problem.
I remember growing up, I was never all that good at doing blue collar kind of work. I had a really hard time figuring out how to do it well. Then in 1999, I had to find a way to pay for my college tuition. Working in fast food over the summer wouldn’t pay the bills, so I took a job as a tree planter. Tree planting was the dirtiest, grungiest, most blue collar kind of job I ever did in my life. Training for it was hard. I was out in the middle of nowhere trying to figure out how to plant trees properly, and quickly to make money (they paid you on commission) and it was a slow go at first. It took me far longer to understand how to plant than most of the others on my crew. After 4 weeks of making lousy money, I finally had a good day and planted 800 trees in a day. After that, it was pretty well all uphill for me.
The lesson I learned that summer was I could learn how to do almost anything as long as I stick with it, and have a good teacher that would help me learn, even if I wasn’t naturally gifted at it.
I agree! He was a horrible teacher. Sadly I didn't see it until later.
I Love that!! I feel like blue collar jobs are hard for most of us. But like what you did, It takes practice. I love the being paid by the job, Because then it forces you to get better!
I had a couple friends who were blue collar guys. They picked up blue collar work easily and I didn’t. Hanging out with them kind of made me feel inadequate at the time.
Every failures has everything to teach us . Every bit of it is a lesson . Getting up , analysing objectively and strike again after homework is a definite outcome towards improvement . Without failure there would be no joy of success too . Light exists with dark, so is success with failure . Very good read . You covered a puzzle and presented it in simple words. Thanks for that @kaylinart
I always see failure as delayed success, as we always can improve and use it to further ourselves for future success at it or anything else. Failure always grows you as a person as well, so long as you let it.
Exactly! I love that you see it that way heheh :)
wow,so sweet post
Thank you
So nice and well-deserved selections, keep it up@kaylinart and show us more beauty of this amazing world with the help of your photo Simple and beautiful, sometimes thing can make your day and this
We grow from our failures. We learn what does not work. Failure helps us to gain character and if we don't practice insanity we will try something different or at least a different way. In time we become a better person. Thanks @kaylinart
Yes all said is true and i guess failures are what makes a person gold,makes him tough to face situations.
It is necessary to have failure in order to get perfect.
i am inspire about him from your post.
thank you for your post.@kaylinart
I am first time in fall.this is very bad time my life.
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beautiful pictures, beautiful scenery, elegant colors, good writing to read and understand, thanks for sharing, @kaylinart. 😊,@jhoni like.
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There can be no failure to a man who has not lost his courage, his character, his self respect, or his self-confidence. He is still a King. Without failure there is no achievement.
@kaylinart I was devastated when I filed Personal Bankruptcy. I felt like such a LOSER, then I realized that One Day at a Time I could recover and things would get Better. Here I am half of my life later and I realize that anyone can recover from the Rigged System called Central Banking. I tell people now do everything you can in your life not to be caught UP in Their System...............
Failing is a requirement to truly understand the feeling and meaning of succeeding.
Western women CANNOT fail in the West. You know this, right? So when YOU -- a woman -- talk about failure to us men with your ridiculous list of things and bullet points, it's actually insane.
YOU cannot fail or, as you said it: it is impermanent for YOU.
Not so much for a male.
What a nice post friend. One thing I can add, is focus on thing you excel, things you're good at. I used to be a engineering student before, but I know I'm little bit kinda sucks at math, I've talked to my parents, and asked permission if I can change my program course, and they've agreed and supported me. Right now I'm taking Bachelor of Arts Major in Multi Media Arts (which Art related Program Course) andI can say to myself right now this is where I belong and this is what I love. ART! and best wishes to me, I'll be graduating this coming october! 😂 thank you for this post! I can really relate to it, hope more people will read this. If you have some time, feel free to visit my profile, I'm a grapgic artist/illustrator, and lately I want to get more involve in T-shirt designing/printing. I'm looking forward to learn more from you.
Thanks :) It's only 12 minutes in lol
Yea, he should have been patient
Yeah. I wonder if it's a copy and paste comment lol
Lol. It may be. Let wait to see if he checks back and reply you
I guess you have to check again. She is getting the reward for her valuable post already
Thank you
Right? it's so true