We often overvalue the opinion of others. To the extreme, Where It becomes unhealthy.
We Can't Change What They Think Of Us!
We often are concerned about what people are thinking of us because we think we can change what they are thinking. We can somehow argue it, or we can somehow prove them wrong. We hope they will think differently about us.
Often when people feel a certain way about us, it won't change. A lot of the time these people are very negative, and I want to think poorly of you either way. Sometimes these are just people we shouldn't be spending any time around anyways. So don't even bother trying to change the way they think about you. Just be you!
It's A Waste Of Time
Again, Being worried about what people think of about you is just a waste of time. Because they won't change their opinion if they have decided that that's what they're going to think of you no matter what.
You Fail To Execute
When we are overwhelmed with wonder, On what others are feeling about us. We are less likely to execute on our goals. This only allows us to be brought down by those people that don't like us. And it makes it harder for us to get what we want. It can be hard not to be curious. And only slows you down from getting what you want out of life.
I love the quote that what people think of you as none of your business. Because it's mostly true. It doesn't matter When people think poorly of us. It often doesn't affect us directly. Sometimes when I start thinking like this, I stop myself for a second. And think "She doesn't like me, how does this hurt my life or my opportunities?" That's when I realize it's doing nothing to me. And by worrying about it. I'm only hurting myself.
We All Want To Be Liked
We all want to be liked by others, But the problem is. No matter how kind, Or amazing you are. There will always be someone out there who doesn't like you. There will always be someone who woke up today and decided they don't like you no matter what you do. And you shouldn't waste your valuable time and resources on those people. Practice ignoring it, And don't give them the satisfaction that they are successfully dragging you down.
No matter how hard I had tried to stop caring I always really cared deep down. But ever since I’ve become a little heartless I stopped caring what people are going to say , to me I say “ let the world talk” no one really understands “us” until they walk in our shoes
So you don't care about what I think?! Sobs intensely hehe ;)
Just kidding, those that show support, positivity, and and generally good to you are the ones you can care what they think. They tend to help you grow and get to higher places in life, sometimes anyway. Otherwise, screw everyone else! :P
Awww I Care about what you think! LOL you are an exception XD LOL
Exactly!!! hehe
Hehe good, likewise to you. :)
It kills when what others think of you bothers you.
I've tried both , and I'm a much happier person now that I don't give a shit
Right? it does magic! Lol
This is great advice and, not to overstate things, life-saving advice. All the cyber-bullying we hear about could disappear if teens learned to say "Who Gives A Crap What They Think!"
Why give them rent space in our heads over our happiness or lack of. They do not pay our bills so why should we worry what they think. We are powerless over what others think or do.
Oddly, to be successful sometimes you need haters. I'm not good with this part but do believe it.
Someone who I really like has said for years to be president you need half the population to hate you. That fuels so much conversation that it gets the other side to defend and vote for you. Funny that the stronger the arguing the more fuel of success it can build.
More times than not, the reason some may not like you is because they don't like some aspect of themselves that they can't or don't want to change. They become hypercritical of others to hide their own insecurities. But, there are others that really just like not liking people. I always ask myself, when encountered by such people, do they bring value to my life? If not, move along.....
it is so heart aching, just don't give a shit, just ignore shitty people, enjoy your life girl 😊
Really informative and useful post, especially for newbies like me... ❤
This post will help us understand the platform of Steemit more thoroughly...
I will resteem it so my other steemians friend can also learn a lot from this..
Thanks for sharing... 😍.gif)
Nice piece here.
I used to care so much about what others would say but then i realized that the whole lot of 'em have their own issues and so i stop giving a sh#t...
Good stuff kaylinart.
We thought that was pretty crap. So in July 2012, Simon, Jehan and Danny launched Who Gives A Crap with a crowdfunding campaign on IndieGoGo. Simon sat on a toilet in our draughty warehouse and refused to move until we had raised enough pre-orders to start production.
I totally share your opinion, people should not be aware of what they think and say about us, except the sincere opinions of our friends and family, the opinions of others is only for people who have nothing to do.
excellent post dear friend @kaylinart, I wish you a great day
So true.
It can become really problematic when we enter the stage of "self forgetting," which happens to those who become so wrapped up in what others are saying and thinking that they forget about having ideas, preferences and likes of their own. I believe it's called "other-referencing," in psycho-speak.
And that tends to end badly, because ultimately we know we're not being true to ourselves, and then we start to grow bitter and resentful... but because we're too worried about others' opinions, we turn those feelings inward, and become depressed instead.
Bright Blessings!
I Agree with you @journeyoflife
"No matter how hard I had tried to stop caring I always really cared deep down. But ever since I’ve become a little heartless I stopped caring what people are going to say , to me I say “ let the world talk” no one really understands “us” until they walk in our shoes"
You are Right Mam.
The about statement is so true. I have experienced that a few times myself. Although I am not much of an extrovert, many people I come in contact with feel I leave them more positively nourished according to them.
However, on a few occasions I sense dislike from some persons who feel threatened by my being loved by many. I have tried in the past to reach put to such ones as if to make peace of some sort but I find out that they only become more infuriated. Finally, I have accepted that not everyone must like me. I do the best I can do and leave the rest, afterall I am full of imperfections just like everyone else.
Loved reading these comments :)
Beautiful eyes like a cat
Personally I think when some one thinks negatively of you it always your chance to show them the good side of you. You can always win favor back if you show them love
Totally agree with this post...
There is a saying: "Dont think what others think about you. Those who hate you will remain hate you. And vice versa..."
So, the best think is do our best... ❤
Anyway, thanks for sharing dear @kaylinart ... 😍
Yea @kaylinart Bring others UP to a higher level, don't let them Bring You Down to their level. You do this by showing patience and kindness. Success breeds Success................
You're absolutely right about this....
"We all want to be liked by others, But the problem is. No matter how kind, Or amazing you are. There will always be someone out there who doesn't like you."
Even on Steemit, there are people who will never upvote or make comment on your posts no matter how good the post is simply because they don't like you and the funny part is that sometimes you're not even aware of this. If everyone likes you then there's a problem, there are people who don't even like themselves talkless of others.
Thank you for this amazing and thought-filled post @kaylinart
Why rent our head space on top of our happiness or lack? They do not pay our bills, so why do we think about them
Glad to have you on my Auto Voter while im working extra shifts with little internet time , and I love your posts !! I could care less what other people think of me , its what you think of yourself that matters ! upped earlier now resteemed !✌👍👍👍💕
great advice & thank you for share!