There is no way to "healthy balance" this one or anything else. The "middle path" is a logical fallacy. We think that doing a little bit of both is ok for most situations but really it is not.
Being aware at someone who screwed you over is the healthiest thing you can do for yourself.
yes, I agree with you that it's very important to know when someone crossed your boundaries. Like I mentioned above, I don't mean that you should forgive everyone that has ever hurt you. Definitely not, some actions should not be forgiven. But this post is merely a guideline what to do if you DO want to forgive, if you DO want to give a second chance and move on!
Thanks for your comment and the input!
How could you possibly offer a guideline for billions of people that go under special and unique situations daily?
I would say it's ALWAYS important to forgive, although not easy to do. Forgiveness need not be earned as it's a decision on our part. However, that does not mean that trust has been re-established just because I've forgiven them. Trust must be earned by demonstrating trustworthy behaviour consistently over time. So I can forgive someone, meaning I'm not consumed by bitterness and hatred of them for what they've done, but that doesn't mean I necessarily trust them.