Good luck to you! It's a struggle for me today just to respond to replies. Yours, though, is worth responding to. I also am afraid of people, I've never been proper, socially. Comes from my eye being crossed from birth, making people think I'm detecting danger over their left shoulder... Never made good eye contact, so I have no idea when someone's starting to get upset facially -- only when they put it in their voice.
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Definitely feel ya. I'm glad you responded, I'm struggling as well. I know I owe ya one. But I don't know how to explain the short version of anything and I've always gotta settle in to fire up the old brain, because right now my getting disability experience is a giant miraculous blank of grateful life saving goodness with no details. Hopefully they get you squared away right quick. It's just a struggle sometimes if one doesn't have the words to explain what they are experiencing.
When I lived with a kid that was on the autism spectrum for awhile, I would take advantage of the voice thing, because that's also how i hear upset because I'm fail at eye contact, except at brief key moments. Instead of escalating or acting out my anger hoping he'd get it, I'd try & be like: "c'mon buddy, do you hear my voice getting deeper & firmer when I tell you no? I'm starting to get upset & you need to listen." I'm not sure my point, but it sure seemed to go a long way & I wish others would do it for me, lmao.
Best to you & the Mrs., hope your struggle gets a little easier. But no worries on the reply thing, I know how it goes & even if we forget each other for 3 months, I'll be glad to meet you again!