Pedophilia as sexual orientation is totally normal - it's does NOT harms anyone... except a social stigma on pedophiles. Just like it was for gays. Stigma is the problem, not the orientation.
That said, pedophilia as ACT of sexual abuse is bad, just as bad as any other sexual abuse of any human being. The age, sex, race, religion, nation or any other individual traitis of victim are indifferent here, as well as a sexual orientation of abuser. To force people is unacceptable - that's it, period.
If we not stigmatize anticipatorily any heterosexual woman as a "rapist of man" (unless she actually raped someone), why should we stigmatize a pedophile woman as a child rapist (unless she actually raped someone)? Even if heterosexual woman is sexually deprivated somehow, so ugly for example that she never will have a chance for consensual sex with any man in her life even once, she is still not becomes an obligate rapist. And it's nothing wrong with her. Just no luck - we must help, not mock.
We must assist pedophiles to be a healthy part of society, considering they needs, getting them nonviolent alternatives to alleviate sexual deprivation - like realistic dolls, VR simulations, animated pornography, roleplay etc. Just like we giving alternatives to warlike people, providing them with action cinema, 3D shooters, toy soldiers and strikeball competitions etc. And it is also necessary to respect any human dignity and the right to be oneself while doing no harm to other people.
This is exactly what I think, after that short research I did, I understand why they are separating pedophilia from a pedophilic disorder and I agree with you on assisting this people, for the sake of us all.
Just like people who come out of jail, if they do not count with family and friend support, if they can't find a job, and they already, legally at least, payed their debt to society, if they do not receive social help, chances are theyw ill commit a crime again.
I do believe that the alternatives offered today to alleviate their desire are a bit creepy, I haven't search how well they work, but if they do, then keep on doing it.
Now, something that comes to my mind is that, maybe new researches will show that known paraphilias like zoophilia and gerontophilia also show up during puberty, are everlasting and can't be modified, will they be considered sexual orientations in the future? Idk, it's quite an interesting debate topic.