That’s an intense and unpleasant experience to have gone through.
I’m assuming - and hoping - that you’ve sought assistance with dealing with the trauma of your experience with this person.
I’d love to read more about how you’ve dealt with the trauma, how you’ve healed and recovered, how you’ve adapted to it.
But also, now, many years after this fact, having discovered the truth of those times, and dealing with them...what have you gotten from the experience that have made you the person you are today? I always imagine that people who go through these experiences come out of them stronger, somehow... I’m wondering what that is for you?
Well, right before we left Holland I was about to get treatment for the ptsd, but instead we moved to another country. And I must say that things have been much much better since then. The horrible nightmares of all the traumatic events slowly appeared fewer nights instead of all night long.
I've read many many posts about how I dealt with everything because this was only just a small piece of the traumatic pie I had in Holland. We didn't flee our country with a three month old baby for no reason. And I must say that it was the best decision we could have made.
All the traumatic events, and dealing with psychopaths have learned me a lot about human beings with bad intentions, and I can honestly say that nowadays I can see through the eyes of those people that they are bad news. Where I used to not listen to my gut feeling years ago, I now listen to it right away. Even if I don't have a clear explanation for the why I feel a person is bad news, I take no risks to burn myself (or my family) by having them in our lives. I've learned a lot, but it has cost me everything I had, and loved back then. Yes, it has made me much wiser, but honestly, I also must admit that some things I'd rather not have known because for a few years I lost total faith in humanity.. that's not a nice way to live.. but that's getting better since we have our lives back in another new country and doing well here..
That’s an amazing - and very useful - skill to have. It’s so easy to lose hope when we are constantly exposed to the darker side of humanity. And yet, now you have a gift that you can share with us all.
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