First, let me say I like both looks. I can see a place in your life for either. I think it's almost a community service for you to work indicate your mood in some visual way. We men are slow to pick up on subtle clues so it's a big help.
I believe women dress and wear makeup for other women. Guys aren't that concerned. I frequently hear the young ladies I work with complaining that they get no attention when dressed to kill, but as soon as the go to the store in sweatpants and bunny slippers so guy is hitting on them.
I think most guys prefer a minimalist approach to makeup. We hate going to bed with one woman and waking up to a stranger.
That being said, I think we should all do what makes us happy. Self expression is a good thing.
LOL, it's funny you should say that. My husband was the most vocal about it. He has always said he loves me regardless, but I think sometimes he has a hard time understanding that, as you pointed out, we women for the most part dress for ourselves. Confidence comes from being comfortable in your own skin, and some of us need a little help to feel that way. While it's wonderful for us to hear that you love us whether we are "dressed up" or not, sometimes we need to hear that the little extra things we do to make our selves feel better gets your attention too (in a good way). For someone who struggles with self-esteem issues, being told not to bother can be just as detrimental as a derogatory remark would be.
Women are so confusing
Yup, I will agree there. I've been here 43 years and I'm still trying to figure myself out, I can't imagine what it must be like for my hubby. Even after 17 years, he still has days where he just shakes his head.