I've recently been coming across a lot of people around me who have made me realized that the one reason for which I can’t stand them is that they are generally disrespecting towards other people. This doesn’t mean that they talk rudely and don’t bother answering you, I am talking about the kind of disrespect that comes from within. There are a lot of examples. The thing is that we rarely point it out when it's being done to another person and take offense to it only when we are the ones it is being done to.
I’ve been feeling pretty off about such people lately. I don’t like it when someone younger doesn’t give space to someone elder in a bus, I don’t like it when someone doesn’t value the other time and opinion, I absolutely hate it when someone doesn’t respect other people’s privacy and I also hate it when it people think that it's their right to talk to other people however they want, just because they’re in a lower position than them.
The sad part is that we get to see this daily…. We see people getting bullied and people feeling worthless about themselves just because of a bunch of people disrespecting them. I am also a victim. I have been a victim for so long that now I get frustrated on my own self for feeling bad for myself. Maybe that’s what has been keeping me from truly growing up. Maybe that’s what has kept me from coming out of my shell and expressing my true self. Maybe that’s what has brought me to the point that I have been screaming inside for so long and now it feels like I'm ready to scream it out loud. I am the point that I just need a reason to literally throw it all out at once…
Why? The root cause is disrespect and disrespectful people…
How to deal with such people? I found out a few tips. Read on.
Tell them how you feel about it
The moment you feel disrespected or insulted, you must confront them. In fact, if you feel like you're too angry and feeling way too annoyed, give yourself some time, compose your thoughts and then tell them how you feel. You can correct the person in a polite way given that they understand the consequences and don’t plan to repeat it. Try to deliver your point s clearly as possible, without getting into an argument or physical fight. The more logical you will be, the less it will give them a chance to answer back.
Add a little Humor maybe?
You can be sarcastic if you want. You can also try to be funny if you feel like. Everybody has a different way of responding to situations. Some handle it sensitively, some handle with a little humor and some handle it aggressively. However, one of the best ways to ease up the situation and get your point though is by delivering your point in a light manner. I am not asking you to let it go as a joke. You have to know where you are drawing a line between humor and serious talk.
Start a conversation
Instead of judging the person right away, take a minute to understand that person may have been brought up in an environment where they don’t know how to treat people with respect. The truth is that a lot of people in the society that we live in really don’t know some basic ethics. People are not aware of it and one of the reasons is also that they themselves don’t know their own rights and how they should be treated. So try to start a conversation with them and make them understand what you find offensive and why is it wrong to do or say so. Who knows, you might be giving them a new perspective to think.
Point it out in Private first
I think one of the most effective and nice ways is to talk to a person privately rather than pointing out something in public. Going public about a matter is only suitable when the person keeps repeating it even after you have made it clear to them that you don’t like it. In fact, after several private attempts, I think it becomes mandatory to point them in public just so people around them also take part and that person might feel ashamed only then. Any person that is doing wrong to you or treating you rudely gives you the right to confront them so do it in private just so they don’t feel humiliated and understand your point better.
Is lawful and positive to show when anyone is abusing from me or from others, not doing the same "without respect" but using mindset of equality and good character.@sameer777 I am going to write my opinion about respect: The essential for develop a high quality of lives each others.
Your how to deal list is ok. However, we should understand that different approach for different people is vital. We should alse develop ignor it mindset. I mean " Talk some, Leave some".
The moment you feel disrespected or insulted, you must confront them.
I will keep in mind this sentence.
every time that I face anyone who has intention of disrespect, I usually try to endure the moment. I just god huge motivation from you!
Thank you very much.
Great article and very well written. That being said you did leave one thing out. A quick throat punch. That usually gets the point across pretty quickly.
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I agree, pulling the individual aside is a respectful way to approach the situation and thus optimizing a positive outcome!
if I put myself to give importance to the erratic behavior of other people I would be disregarded, in turn we do not know what problems sustain that makes them act in that way and the life so extended that we have to live, I do not say that we do not act when someone gets out control and hurt with your words or acts
Disrespecting people is of course not a good habit. In the contrary, respect is being earned so I guess sometimes, rudeness can be necessary.
This is succinct. I mean so on point.
But I'll like to ask, everyone has a language of correction.
Yes, just like there is love language there is correction language.
So you might have to try a few. But most times, that of example and conversation I employ.
And private talk is more like conversational to me.
When you get to talk with these guys, most times, not all cases, you'll get to find out they don't know they were actually doing anything wrong
Temperaments pays a big role here. So when correcting, you need to be diplomatic. Different languages for different temperaments.
And I also like to try the scenario theraphy. That is what I call it. I paint a scene where what they do is being done to them and ask how they would feel.
When they most times, feel the pain of the other, they will understand the magnitude of their action.
Great post.
But in all, how you react is not a result of the external force, it comes from the inside. YOU!
I had to quit my job one time because I didn't like the way my boss treated the female receptionist. Yeah! I can be that extreme when I see people treated wrong.
Respect is very wise, but if there are individuals who do not respect each other, we need to act so that he knows how to respect each other.