In the last year and a half, my wife and I have been out twice together without our daughter. The first time was close to year ago where we went to the movies and then out dancing, but it was cut short due to a crying baby that the grandparents couldn't calm, and the second out to dinner for 'Hot wings.' That was about 2 months ago.
For Christmas, my sister-in-law gave us a voucher for a sushi restaurant plus a babysitter for a few hours so we could catch a movie too, and after much arranging, we managed to organise it for a Friday Date night.
Our daughter has a mild flu and hasn't slept much the last few nights leaving us all tired but, tonight she seems to be okay enough and will sleep through. It is after 5 am now and I have to be up soon as she will be waking up around seven-ish. Why am I still up? Our dog is sick and neither I or my wife have slept. So, unless there is some miracle, our narrow window for some together will close once again for who knows how long. As they say, never work with children or animals.
I don't complain about being a parent as we did plan to have a child and an animal is a responsibility we (well, he came with my wife, but I like him a lot) have chosen also. But, it is also quite hard at times as my wife and I rarely see each other except in passing as I work a lot and she studies a lot.
I don't think it is too difficult to get away for a few hours but, with everyone else potentially capable of babysitting having their own busy schedules also, syncing windows rarely happens. Maybe the miracle will happen and we will get to go together and have some sushi and watch a movie but even then, will I sleep through dinner, she sleep through the movie?
I figure this will be a couple of years like this until my wife finishes her studies and our daughter is old enough that more people can look after her but, for my wife, I know this is a difficult time in many ways. It is hard on me too but I have a slightly different attitude to her when it comes to looking at discomfort as I see it as something we go through, part of the journey of experience. She seems to feel it a lot more, like it will never end.
Well, it is what it is and I hope the dog feels better when the sun comes up, and I am still able to catch a little sleep somewhere. I think my wife chose a Julia Roberts movie anyway so, perhaps I will sleep the movie shift this time.
Taraz
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We're quite lucky in that my wife's mother lives around the corner and my daughter is very comfortable with her, so we've probably been able to escape 3-4 times a year. But even then, it's hard to go out knowing that you've left your daughter in the care of someone else. Even when it's the grandmother, you get that feeling that she's in someone else's hands.
But the time away, even for just an hour or two is golden for your mental state, and for your relationship.
Nobody tells you how hard some things like that are before you have kids
Hang in there @tarazkp, it is going to get better. Life can be challenging most of the time. With work, family,school and raising a child it can be overwhelming. The truth is as the child grows older learning autonomy, concrete and abstract thinking and going to school. You guys have more time for each other.But for right now, "while the blanket is short, learn how to bend." One of famous proverbs we used in my country.
Hey Taarz I totally feel you on this. We just experienced a full moon so emotions are realizations are rising to the surface, while external circumstances are shifting and testing us.
Here's to a joyous 2018 and some serenity spent with your love!
Dog are part of family it hurts when they are ill or not feeling good and you should get some sleep otherwise you will feel sleepy and lazy next day.
hi @tarazkp
I often feel like parenting is like a timewarp. The first six days feels like an eternity - then the first six weeks of sleep deprivation feel like they last forever. Slowly though, time speeds up, and you get little windows of time back. Until they are growing up so fast in front of your eyes.
As long as you keep making the effort for the things you want in life (like date nights), it will start to happen. My husband and I used to love snowboarding together before we had kids, but for years it felt like that would never happen again because something would always take priority. Now they are older and we all go snowboarding together as a family. It was all so worth it.
-Bec
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Happy family.. enjoy always with your family..
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Things will get easier. Hang in there.
How old is your daughter? It was quite hard for my wife and I during the baby year. The worst times were when our daughter would catch a stomach bug and vomit for several days and nights.
Now that she's in primary school it's completely different. It's a cliche but what you're going through now will pass.
It will get better man! Work hard now and relax later! Hang in there you are close!
I will get better.
Our boy is 11 month old and I started to believe that it will get quite easy with time since it is getting easier and easier all the time. To be honest, I think my son is actually quite easy compared to many other babies. However, I can relate and I know exactly how your wife is feeling and why. When the baby is small, moms are with the baby all the time while dads are doing many other things as well, such as working. So, the time is difficult for dads because there is so many things to do and so little time but for moms it is difficult time in another way, mentally. Moms often have to be with their babies around the clock and it is hard sometimes. It is hard to be with the baby giving the baby all of yourself, being tired and neglecting yourself, and it is even more difficult to give the baby to someone else for a while. Maternal instinct is such a powerful thing..