However, if you ask me if a dress makes your butt look fat, and I think it does, I will tell you.
I’m totally the same way. My spouse always tries to tell me that I shouldn’t be like that, but I respond - well then how would you know that I really mean it, when I say you look great :)
Tim, truth is overrated when it comes to complimenting her. She needs to hear you say she looks great. Do it.
There are plenty of times when I do compliment my spouse, and they say "you are just saying that because you have to". I always reply - you know that isn't true. I only compliment you when I really mean it. It makes it a lot more meaningful when it is my actual/honest reply.
That sounds like being an awesome witness is very similar to being an awesome relationship manager.