When family and people close to you instead of have total faith you can achieve, beg you to see reality that it doesn't go your way all the time. It's when made me think I couldn't achieve anything, then I decided to figure it out on my own and when you do things yourself you find out that you have more power than other people claim you don't.
It's a psychological trick society used to make sure one individual doesn't rise up to their potential because then it would mean that society can no longer reign over individuals like they're sheep.