Dear Future Husband,
If you propose to me in a mall, restaurant, movie theatre or any public place for that matter, you would be marrying yourself.
Especially the mall.
Don't try it.
Don't.
I would definitely not find it the tiniest bit romantic. I will conclude that you have no idea who I’m or what I like.
Don't ask me to marry you on my birthday either.
Or my graduation for that matter.
Or any festive season like Christmas or the Fourth of July for that matter.
Don't invite anyone.
Unless of course there is another guy joining us for a threesome (wink).
I prefer a casual Saturday.
Again I repeat, if you propose marriage to me in public, you would marry yourself.
I would not scream in surprise or any of that shit.
I would not laugh.
I would only think 'is this the idiot I want to marry?'
Because the honest truth is if you knew me so well, you wouldn't propose in public.
Propose to me on the bed while eating pizza and Ice cream after having sex.
That’s the only proposal that counts.
Signed,
Lizzy.
The above is a hilarious letter my best friend penned to her imaginary future husband one night when we were getting drunk in the club and she showed it to me. Even though I laughed so hard, it got me thinking about this whole business of public display of marriage proposals. I know I sound like a hater right now, but many of them look stage-managed. You know how most people would do anything to be featured in blogs and magazines nowadays. Their five seconds of fame the only thing on their minds. So they enact the most ridiculous of surprise proposals while people’s cameras are snapping away at them or videoing and the next minute they are garnering a thousand views on YouTube. Life mission accomplished!
For some of them who actually knock the wind out of their partners, I still wonder why anyone would think that putting someone they love under intense pressure in full public glare about a private and life-changing decision like marriage is romantic. I really can’t help but wonder.
But well what do I know? It’s obvious that a lot of people seem to get a mighty kick from this (even though we’ve of a handful of folks who got turned down in public too after they went a great length to “perform” their marriage proposals). So I’m just going to say this- everyone should do what works for them but ensure that you really understand the kind of person your partner is, because if she’s anything like my friend, you’re going to be walking down that aisle alone. Ciao!
Hahaha, that letter is pure class! :-)
Is this your friend maybe?
Oh, and welcome to Steemit; starting with a bang! :-)
Cg
...but that was a successful proposal !
lets get the best sports rejects every there has to be a million and that will start seeing the propsal says i exchange a ring for trust and obivously on the earth plane it does not work because marriages are broken every day and second due to misstrust
Expensive weddings make me want to vom. If I ever get married it will be in the registry office with a handful of friends/family. Then we'll go down to the closest Wetherspoons pub for a burger and two pints. Sorted.
Thank you for your thoughts on the matter. Namaste :)
The older I get the more I realize that women are a mystery that I'll never understand. My wife asks me trick questions all the time that have no right answer but I've developed a defense. I go totally limp and prone on the floor. She eventually loses interest.
lol!
:( I proposed at the mall in front of santa
but to be honest, she didn't see it coming and I saw a tradition
engaged > married > pregnant > first born :)
I proposed to my wife near the place that I grew up which happened to have a pond in the shape of a heart. Do you know what she said? "Really?" I didn't know how to take it, but as the shock wore off she clarified that it was a yes. Wheew!
Love in our OPEN universe is no proposal of marriage and def. not a big diamond we are always in love with everyone for we are all 1 connected being soul and enity and being!
Ahh Sh** , There goes my plan to propose to my girlfriend at the mall :/ - Just Kidding
What if I propose to you on Steemit?
I do marriage ceremony posts for 50 steem.
also...I may know a professional bridenapper...for a fee...
so wsup tryna get married?
I never understood the marriage proposal thing. Marriage is a burden to man, and benefit to wife. To me the only proposal that makes sense, is the wife-to-be proposing the man. I don't even see a point in marriage these days.
I'm like George Clooney here:
(I'm such a true romantic, l know) :P
Haha I love that letter. As you say people chase the 5 seconds of fame constantly also I personally think they put some people in a uncomfortable spot where they might be afraid to say no.
I don't recall ever giving any thought to how I wanted to be proposed to. I guess I just thought however it happened, if it happened, would be fine. I'm not big on jewelry, and don't see why people get so excited about large, fancy diamonds, so the ring wasn't a big deal for me, either. When I was a teen, I sometimes imagined a wedding, and it was always very simple. Later, I saw those big, expensive weddings as obnoxious, because with all the poverty in the world, it just seems so selfish to spend five or six figures on what is essentially a big party. Donate that money to one or more charities if you have it to spend.
My husband proposed to me as we were laying in bed together, in the dark, the night I found out my beloved great-grandmother had died. I think it was his way of making me feel better. There was no ring (my grandmother gave me the one from her first wedding....the one to my grandfather....later), just the question. I said yes, and we went to sleep. That was it.
Three days later, and the day after my great-grandmother's funeral, we went to the court house and got married. Two and a half months later, we threw a really simple, hippie wedding in my husband's brother's back yard. It was mainly for the benefit of family and friends who wanted to see us be wed. Everyone had a great time, because it was so casual. We had a back yard buffet of food we made, live music by my husband's band, drinks supplied by guests who wanted to bring them, and a nice wedding cake and engraved napkins that were a gift from my great-aunt. I think we spent like $100 on the whole thing.
Having never given any thought to an ideal proposal, I had no expectations of it. I was in love with him. I would have said yes however he did it.
I think it is a personal thing and you should build the memories you want.
I totally did not want a public proposal either and I was very vocal about it to my now husband. He proposed to me when we were completely alone-- now I kind of regret that we didn't have at least someone to take pictures. I would love a memory of the moment. It's hard to remember 7 years later lol
letter is hilarious
Very Good
Marriage proposal is private, I would not want anyone else was there. The place and the day is not so important. The main thing is not to get married because my mother said that at her age she had children (like in my case) and is not decent to be happy / enjoy the life :) when all my friends have 3 children and more. Mom says: "do not tell me where you spent the holidays, do not smile, do not say do what you want, do not say that you sleep till noon, they want you to embed on your the face satisfied!!!"
Love, relation and marriage is a privat matters if u ask me
I skipped the public proposal when I proposed to my wife as well. We walked down to the river near where I lived and after sitting and talking for a while I proposed. I'm really not a big fan of the big show off proposals.
eating pizza! Miam !
Haha ahhhh , Thats was cute ! I just wrote about marriage a little bit today. Nice to meet you
Thank you for this post!
saturday must be a big disappointment to her, if no one propose her... (unless she spend the day at the mall)... and I bet saturday is also the day she goes to public places... so basically she should probably give a time window...
My gf knows I own a few guitars but has never heard me play (few have.. I'm not good or anything). When I propose it will be ala acoustic serenade and the first time she'll have heard me play or sing. It will have to be private or I'll probably forget everything and end up like Will Ferrell in the devil playing guitar SNL skit.
Sssshhh... Don't tell her though.
There's no rules besides love.
But if there's no love then all is futile.
A part of me wants to respond to this with a hint of disgust. I'll be modest. In the context of a hetero relationship if the woman is so concerned about how the man proposes then maybe just maybe she should be the one to propose. If she has to write a diatribe about how not to propose then maybe she already knows SHE picked the wrong partner. If you have to spell it out seems like you have chosen a mate for other reasons. Also, large weddings = higher rates of divorce.
If he's the right guy everything is negotiable.
Why bother ..... just live together if you are happy. Marriage complicated things!